It's just over a month since R's cancer surgery and he in the pre-op process for his knee surgery. I think it is too soon but he is in the health system and they are pushing him through. He doesn't want to lose his place as he has been waiting a long time for this and it is painful for him to walk - has been for years. He told me today he failed the stress test due to breathing problems he has been having - possibly due exposure to the wildfire smoke. I don't know if the problems are permanent or how that affect the plans for the knee surgery. He never has had breathing problems before and passed all his medicals well.
A few months ago he would have sailed through a stress test. Truthfully I am shocked.
I have taken over managing the condo flooring and cleaning from him. Thankfully I found someone to finish the flooring as the guy that was doing it is being a bit of a prima donna. I'll do this but you do that!" sort of thing. I believe it is only about a day or at the most 2 days’ work left. I will make all the other arrangements that are needed and have told him to concentrate on his health and getting well as he is by no means recovered from the earlier surgery though the surgeon had cleared him for the next surgery.
This is a big adjustment for both of us. I am thankful he has finally accepted that he can't do the moving and whatever else. Before his surgery he thought he could and I felt he had to find out for himself - and he did.
I am grateful that I can take over despite my age and my health issues. This whole moving experience has been riddled with problems - some in our control, more not in our control.
I really need your prayers and support to get me through this and moved to the condo. It needs to happen and soon!
Thanks, friends.
Quite a story about your dd's dog but a happy ending. Glad she got him a seat harness.
No cane…that’s progress!
I’m glad Rocky is adapting. My cat was weird whenever she moved into a new place. She would hide under the sofa until she felt comfortable with her new environment. Then, she would take over! We live with a cat, instead of us living with them.
We live with a cat, instead of them living with us. I was tired when I typed that last night. Obviously, my brain wasn’t functioning properly! LOL 😆
I am so glad all is well with R and you.
Catching up on some reading as I was not on forum for over 2 months, but it looks like most of your problems are resolved.
If only I could sell my place soon, looks like market is changing.
Lots of work to do!
Need - Cats do claim their places! Rocky eats the spider plant regularly, She needs her greens.
Eva - my oldest son just sold his condo in Calgary for more than he asked. It was a very fast sale and quite an average condo so it's a sellers market there. They were able to purchase a very nice condo (definite upgrade from what they had) in Edmonton for a good price. I am very happy for them. He and their cat will stay over night here while their furniture is being moved. Dd says the market in Fort Mc is improving. I hope so. I never want to have to sell a place again but I suppose I will have to. These condos are appreciating.
Also he needs advice about investing, having had some real disasters. Currently it's small stuff apart from his main investments, but that adds up and why throw your money away? It doesn't affect me personally in terms of finances - my money is separate and safe - but I hate to see him keep doing it to himself and it affects me as he gets very frustrated. I think we had a fruitful discussion about it this morning. Time to list where all his money is and send it to his kids and be more conservative,
Maybe it's time for me to get in help with the housework. I said I would when I reached 80 and I didn't. Maybe by the time I am 90 I should get someone to do it. Or get R to do more of it. He's quite capable.
Just using this to vent I guess. He is recovering well. Stairs are still a bit of a problem and he tires more easily but we are so thankful it wasn't worse.
A house keeper isn't a bad idea, if it was me I'd get a once a month person to do the deep cleaning at first. So it's easier for you to do the every day task, and go from there.
Deepening on your cleaning needs of course. Everyone has a curtain mind set on what they think is clean. I look around and say , it's my clean, may not be so and so's clean, but it's definitely cleaner than what's her name. 😆
I hope things improve .
Certainly go ahead about cleaning service . You could even have them come in once as a Fall cleaning . Some of the chain cleaning companies will do one off jobs .
Then you could see how it goes from there . But it would give you a bit of immediate relief that you may need , until R gets stronger .
A house cleaning services sounds like heaven right now
Today it is more forms, only on the computer. I don't know why they expect a senior who isn't that computer literate and has just had a head injury to go through double authentications and fill out forms that don't fit his information when we used to just fill out the form by hand and give it to them and attach a note if needed. He is still very much "married" to the old ways of doing things.
I got him into the needed site. Now I'll go through it with him when he gets back from another task he's on.
He needs to get a copy of his car registration for the RCMP, but registries won't give it to him without a bill of sale which, during the accident, went out the SUV window with the registration and many other papers. It's very frustrating. I found a government site online which says it will get him a copy with the info he has. Let's hope it works.
I guess we are getting through this. I know it is worse for him than for me.
And funny things happen.
R went "frustration" food shopping after the registries fiasco. He doesn't "frustration" eat but he "frustration" shops. He proudly presented me with 2 big leeks saying -"Here you are. You said you can eat leeks!"
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What I said was that I could eat eggs. It may be time for hearing aids for him.
Actually I can't eat leeks - they are high fodmaps. He sliced them up and sauteed them and enjoyed some for lunch. We froze the rest so all ended well.