I have gotten so much good, helpful advice the last few years from this group. My mother got sick last November with sepsis; went to a nh for rehab (miracle she survived the sepsis). It became clear very quickly that she was not going to come home and had given up completely. The nursing home took abysmal care of her (only my husband stopping in daily for two months kept them from killing her). I was able to get back home from my job in late January just in time to close on two houses, move, and see her get a second round of septic shock. She was also bleeding internally somewhere but couldn’t withstand the tests necessary to figure it out. I had her HCPOA and we decided that her DNR would be engaged. She went to hospice on a Tuesday and my sister finally decided to put in an appearance on Thursday. She passed very peacefully on that Friday evening. The hospice and hospital were top notch. Very helpful with hard decisions and her comfort. My sister stuck around long enough to grab some jewelry and high tailed it home before any hard work could begin. It was a long few months, but in the end she went to be with my dad like she wanted and I really felt we all (hubby and I) did the best we could. It’s still not completely sunk in, but I’m sure it’s coming.
And for the surrounding sibling dysfunction causing you more grief.
Hoping your pain is eased, as you miss your Mom.
Focus on the good things you will be recalling about your Mom.
You can tell us.
my deepest condolences to you.
I agree. The last awful days go so slowly but then it seems a blur. I wish you comfort and peace and the long lasting knowledge that you did your best.
should you feel the need for bereavement counseling, some hospice groups provide this for caregivers and immediate family as an extension of the MediCARE hospice benefit.
So now please take time to take care of yourself and your husband, and allow yourself time to grieve your mom.
God bless you.
You and your husband were a huge blessing to your mom.
May you have peace knowing you did everything you could and she is no longer suffering.
The Lord bless you and your husband for all you have done.