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Ok Judy, rub it in! My shit storm has arrived. First nurse called. Then.....wait for it....DQ roommate in bed 2!!!! Still can't wrap my head around that one!!! Nurse asked me if I was planning on visiting mother today, she was being sent down for a stress test. (still screaming chest pain) while I'm speaking to nurse, roommate dials in. Didn't know it at that time. Didn't recognize the name , so when I finished with nurse I called the number and it was room mate. Seems she asked this woman to call me because she thinks she's dying. Nobody has been there to see her. Dosent she have any grand children? I said I'll tell you what, inform her I'll be there by the time she returns from the stress test. I wasn't going to go. But dammit, now she has complete strangers calling me. So when I got to hospital, first order of business was to take care of room mate. I went to nurses station and asked for nurses of both and their shift supervisor. I went in the room with a smile on my face and introduced myself. I gently thanked her for the phone call, but these women here with me will assure you that they will contact me with any changes to her condition. And whatever she has told you, she is not near death. I realize you must have taken a liking to my mom and that's great. But her relationship with myself and her grandchildren is of her own making. She apologized again. I told her there's no need. I just want you to feel better about the situation. Well after nurses left I stayed and talked with her. I liked the woman. She's there because they found a blood clot in her lung. 45 years old. When they ran the dye during the test, they found a lump in her breast. I took her hand and told her I truly believe everything happens for a reason. The blood clot is now taken care of, and something you were unaware of can be treated also. Then of course the humor had to come out. I asked if her heart was ok. Yes, why? I told her cause when she gets back here, I don't want her behavior to throw you into an attack. She smiled, we talked some more then, Dummmmm, dum dum dum dummmmmmmmmmmm. In she comes. "I can't believe your fat ass actually showed up." oh my god!!!! The look on the woman's face! I laughed so dam hard!!! Between the look on her face, and the realization that those words do not have the power to hurt me anymore. She got out of bed and pulled the curtains between their beds. The visit lasted ten minutes. Heard a few gasp from behind the curtain. Snicker snicker snort snort. Before I left I said goodbye to roommate and told her I'll keep her in my prayers. You know, sometimes this seems surreal. I told Doug I couldn't wait to get here and tell you the latest. He said, honey I know these women are your friends, but does it ever embarrass you for others to know how she calls you names like fat ass? Told him nope. Never has, never will. Besides, IM NOW 7 POUNDS LESS A FAT ASS!!! yeeeehaaaaa!!! Love ya sistas!!!!!
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Hi, judyjudy! If you have some time, read this thread from the start - its a really good read, (and we've all fallen in love with Lisa and her family - you will too).

Good to see another judy on board. That's makes 3 of us, right? Punch, me and you?

Having a decent Monday so far. Told Mom I wasn't coming over until tomorrow. Woooohoooo!
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Thank you. I am new here so missed the dates.
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(((((((((((((((((((((Kim)))))))))))))))))))) I have to say I am not surprised that you are overwhelmed. Hope some more help, or some changes are coming down the line soon, as it looks like this is becoming too much for you. It is OK when that happens, and then we have to do what we have to do. Please look after you. You had such a bad bout of illness not so long ago, and really hardly anytime to recuperate. Don't want that happening again, or you being weary, teary, and depressed. Major hugs and lots of prayers going your way. Keep letting us know how you are - let it out - the KAW can take it! Luv ya sista - Joan
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Hi, I can't keep up n keep things straight w everybody, but want to say thx for the support n encouragement. I just feel depressed n overwhelmed n teary. Going to keep putting one foot in front of the other for now...luv to all of you. Kim
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Cat, in here i will admit that David is both. On my facebook I will only admit that he is my bestest friend in the whole world, my hiking, fishing, camping, and backpacking buddy. My husband is really close to accepting both, (he actually told me this), and my kids are close but not really there yet. So I play it carefully. I have no wish to hurt anyone. Even though it was a horrible marriage, Steve and I have a long history and there were good times. We also have four great kids. I believe in gentle endings whenever possible. While everyone knows that my marriage ended many years ago, and that my husband and I agreed to an amicable separation in December 2010; I only moved out in March of this year. David moved here in February 2011 and quickly became a friend of the entire family including my husband, witness two family campouts with David included. Because my husband Steve likes David things have been easy. Because David likes Steve we have been slow about things. I feel blessed.
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Judy: A whirling anger flurry of flying turds. Not an exact quote, but I'll lose this post if I go back to find your explanation. I did see the question Punch asked, but I knew if I waited you would give the answer. Well done.

Pam: I probably missed the info, but who is David? Is he a romantic interest in your life or a close platonic friend. You can tell us and we can keep a secret. Don't spare any details.

Love, Cat
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sorry i can't hang around, takes all my time to read your posts fine women. i'm still in Texas staying with David's parents. i'll talk all about it when i get home at the end of the month. i'm going to be very sad when i leave here without my David.
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judyjudy, Lisa's mother has been out of her house for months now, if you check the date of the original post you will see that it was quite a while ago. she is a very smart woman, listened to the advice given, and got rid of the wicked btch. (oh, did i say that out loud?). if you would like to learn all about Lisa, her mom, and the ladies here, start from the beginning and read ALL OF OUR POSTS. Thank you.
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Call Adult Protective Services and the Police. Tell them what she has been doing and insist that she cannot stay with you any longer because you are afraid for your very safety and hers.Tell them about the verbal abuse, the pain pill problems and oxygen and smoking. Ask them to take her to the hospital for a full medical and psychiastric evaluation. Cut off the cable TV and her Internet connection.Throw away her cigarettes and refuse to allow her to smoke in your home. Tape record the tirade and play it for the police and her doctor. Do not allow her to continue to argue with you. Call a legal aid attorney for elders and tell him the situation. Perhaps they can conserve her as a danger to herself and others. You should be able to get the police or Adult Protective Services to take her to the hospital for a mental health hold and evaluation. Tape everything she says.You could have one of those "nanny cams" installed. I have seen them at Fry's here in Calif for about $100. Use your cell phone to tape her if necessary. Just set it up on a shelf and turn it on when she comes in to start an argument. She is also being verbally abusive to YOU and your family. Go to your own doctor and tell him or her the situation and as for a referral for therapy. Talk about depression, etc. But get her out of the house and don't let her back in.
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Punch, thanks for asking that question on the diff betw shit balloon and storm. I laughed when Judy was asking for Cat for starting it, then laughed with “crappy” experiences, then “down the toilet”. You guys make a great team. Like Abbott & Costello or the 3 Stooges!
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Punch...this thread is just going down the toilet!
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Either way, both really crappy experiences. (Did I just say that?)
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Punch, a shit balloon is the bathroom horror show with semi liquid poo dripping down walls and all over the toilet. A shit storm is what Lisa's mom causes. She stirs up scenarios that can only be compared with a whirling, angry, flurry of turds.
Cat, where are you? You started this!
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OH ONE more thing. Please clarify the diff. between shit balloon and shit storm. Thank you very much. Punch.
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OH WOW Judy Now I totally do understand that expression! You POOR THING--the only thing good about living with someone with those grotesque habits would be you'd never gain weight because you'd be too nauseated to eat anything. LOL what a horrible thing to endure--hard enough having an old person sharing a bathroom but she sounds extremely bizarre! Those green bottles were what they used to give you for your colonoscopy. They definitely did the trick, alright. I gag just envisioning what you had to go through, poor BABY!!

Cat--I am hereby on notice--husband will now revise his toilet paper statement accordingly! I can't believe how much I am laughing over this thread. Can you say "off topic" much? LOL LOL LOVE IT.
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Yyyyyuck! Must I, Cat? I think I wrote about the shit balloons on the GO thread.
Punch - my grandmother lived with us when I was a kid, from the time I was 6 yrs old. Vile, vile woman - and she hated me! I could tell you stories about her spewing phlegm and snot, licking food out of her false teeth - all the loveliness of growing up with Nana in the house, but the shit balloon is Cat's favorite! My mother worked full time. We had one bathroom in the house. My grandmother was obsessed with her bowels. She drank full bottles of citrate of magnesia. I still shudder when I remember the green glass bottles in the fridge. She'd use the bathroom and it was like someone burst balloons full of shit all over the room. And, she'd leave it like that. I remember crying and gagging as a kid, trying to clean the mess up because I needed to use the bathroom. So, that's where shit balloon comes from. GROSS!
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Judy: I stand corrected. Shit balloon is the proper term. Punch, please inform your husband and bring him up to speed. Any further bathroom fecal incidents of a personal nature and unrelated to DQ are hereby referred to as shit balloons. The correct comment by your husband with regard to my green drink should have been, "Wow, that's gonna cause one major shit balloon. It will probably require 2 rolls of toilet paper."

Judy, not sure you told your shit balloon story on this thread. The one involving your grandmother who use to live with you. Please share. I'll will have my boots, fecal mask and slicker close to my computer for the reading.

Everyone have a good day tomorrow. Love, Cat.
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OMG I love this thread. I sit here and roar laughing and my husband must think I'm losing my mind over here when I suddenly burst out with "hahahaha just tape the pumpkin bread to my ass and save myself the effort of chewing!!" Hilarious!! Congrats Lisa--that a great start, girl-you're on your way!! Good grief, we were invited out to dinner tonight and I made the dessert -- it turned out much too good--I ate a small amount of it but I swear I could have eaten half the damn cake--it was a chocolate cake filled with choc. mousse and it turned out better than any other choc. cake I've ever made. I allowed ONE piece to come home with us for my husband to eat--no way I'll do it again, but just had to try it.

Lisa--that's amazing they were still calling you from the hospital. It's a shame she is experiencing chest pain, but maybe her health is starting to be affected when she realizes the bridges she has burned and the people she's burned out. Sounds very familiar, I can surely relate.

Cat--we had a garage sale last year and it was fun the day of, but alot of work going in--but isn't it a terrific feeling purging all that stuff you don't want or use and having a little extra $ for the holidays.

Em--haven't tried the dumplings yet--I will next time I make that crock pot chicken stew, though. I did buy the chicken so maybe after we return from vacation.

Yes, husband has a great sense of humor. We took a weekend and went to a little B and B a few wks. ago and we were talking about all these different new 'designer dog' breeds, and how they cross and poodle and a golden ret. and combine the names to golden doodle, or a cavalier king charles and call it a cavachon terrier. Well, he says to me did you know they crossed a shih-tzu and a shnauzer and they are calling it a "shit-houser." I nearly spit out the coffee I was drinking. As I said, he's a nut. On that note, turning in. Have a beautiful day tomorrow! xox Punch
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Cat... I think the bathroom thing is a shit balloon! DQ is the reigning queen of shitstorms and all other fecal related weather phenomena, but thanks for the nod. :)
I just love you!
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Hi everyone:

Well, garage sale is over and it went well. Sold a ton of stuff. The weather changed back and forth, some sun, some rain, some wind, but we got through it.

Jeanne: Thinking of you and Coy. I'm grateful for the help you are both getting. Stay well. Sending you love and white light.

Emjo: Glad you liked the pumpkin soup. You hang in there.

Lisa: Six pounds is great. Got to get to 6 before you can get to 10. As long as the twitches are happening on the other end of the phone, things are good.

Punch: I wondered about the toilet paper, but, as Judy would say, there were no shit-storms at all.

Judy: I had left over pumpkin and the first thought was, "Oh, I'll make some pumpkin bread." Not gonna go there because I know where it will end up.

Book: I hope you have many more light hearted days ahead and that you really enjoy your vacation time.

Sending love to all of you very special women. Love, Cat
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Emjo - HUGS to you with your ups and downs with your family. I would have just responded ONE time to your mom with her exact words and then leave it at that.

Lisa, I guess you're now resigned to the hospital always calling you about DQ, huh? Although 6 lbs may seem small to lose, Congrats!! All I can say is in my case, to even TRY to gain 6 lbs. is Difficult! So, I don't even think that losing 6 lbs is a little thing. Good for you!

Jeanne - I rarely comment to you. I'm in such Awe with you! Out of everyone here in AC - I think of you as one of the most experienced person with such.. Great Common Sense!! I don't put you in a pedestal but I just think of all the good advices you have been giving to people on the different threads and it's like a light bulb lights up in my head. I just don't see things like you do and it's so refreshing to see things in a different and much practical way... I'm a bit sad to hear that your husband is now in hospice service. HUGS to you!!
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Riz, I know that it comes out pretty good. The question is - depending on the INK used, how long before the color starts changing. My sister had printed like a collage of photos and laminated it. Then she gave it to me. I framed it "as is" and have it hung up in the livingroom. It still looks great - years later!.... on the other hand, I used ink that is Not for photos, and printed it on photo paper. THOSE photos are now turning a different color! Hence, the reason I recommended for Judy to Laminate ONE photo, and to also try to keep a copy on her computer (or CD like you recommended).

I have stored several of my favorite photos actual photos, in CD, in my external drive AND I emailed it to me and stored in my email!!!
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Book, I scan family photos onto the computer at a high resolution and the can send attachments to family members. It's their responsibility to print them or take a cd to the photoshop to have printed. I've printed some of them and I've scanned them in with a high resolution, they come out pretty good! :-)
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You gals are the best!
No way am I going to catch up now,so I will just jump in again with what i remember.
cat - lovely to spread your dad's ashes with your mum's under a tree. Even then I know it isn't easy. ((((hugs)))) sounds like you are spending some time on "you" things. The pumpkin soup is great. For Gary, I added cajun seasoning and cayenne to give it some heat. I had some for breakfast! We used some of the roasted pumpkin for a veg that night with meat loaf and it was good!
judy -glad the trip went OK and you had time to reconnect with cousins, and get that pic of your bro even if a copy -so special to have it.
pamela -you are on the road and having fun I am sure - check back in when you can
austin - hope you don't have to look after your mum, after the way she treated you. - you need a break
punch - did you try the dumplings yet - I like your hubby's sense of humour - reminds me of my ex. It was one of the few things about him I missed.
kimbee - as was said above - you are welcome in any frame of mind. Hope you and hubby get away and have a good break. You have been in the trenches for a while, and it sounds like the battle was escalated (((((hugs)))))
Lisa - congrats on losing 6 lbs - WAY TO GO!!! DQ back in hosp - and they are finding nothiing wrong - know that one! Another emergency contact sounds good. Love the pic in camo on fb! You are right about Christmas - being with your loved ones. I expect I will be alone again. The way it is these days. Your inlaws are fortunate to have you, and vice versa
book and eveyone else - hi and hope you are having a good weekend
Here mother now is emailing and asking why she hasn't heard from me - I am about ready to tell her that 2 weeks ago she said she didn't want to have any more to do with me - and now she is wondering why I am not in contact - think about it!
Still sad about dd, but I will get through it. On the outs with mother, and dd. Sis, I have written off, that ship sank long ago. Surrounded by narcissism -aaaargh!!!!
Thinking of jeannegibbs and Coy being on hospice now. Jeanne does such an excellent job of caring for him.
love and (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))) to all
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Book, thanks for the photo advice. When you mentioned that the ink fades, I had one of those "omg" moments. If I had just put the photo in a frame and it faded over time, I'd be distraught. No kidding. Thank you so much.

Cat, make some money at the yard sale! I love yard sales. My friend and I have had a few together over the years and it can be so much fun. I wish I was there with you.
Kimbee - I hope today is a good day. You need it. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that you do.
Emjo - you're on my mind.

Lisa - I hope this little shitstorm doesn't develop into a full on shit avalanche with the DQ.
6 lbs!! Woooohoooo! That's awesome! Well done. It hasn't even been that long, has it? Seems fast. Is the diet manageable? Well, it must be, because you're doing so well. I guess what I meant is, are you hungry all of the time? My friend up the street just gave me some green coffee extract the other day and it helped a lot with hunger. Maybe I should join you in your shake diet! Have a good rest of the weekend, and run from avalanches. xx, J.
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Omg Judy!!! Slap the pumpkin bread on your ass ???? Hilarious!! Ok, drumroll please..... 6lbs!!!! Isn't much but I'm excited. Looking forward to not hearing the cellulite screaming move over bi..ch, I'm suffocating. I weighed in and then the phone call came. Yep. She's back in the hospital. So I bit the bullitt and called her room and she hung up on me. Really??? Hahaha. Life is good. Then a nurse named Nancy, who I silently prayed will make it thru the day with DQ, called and said the were moving her to another floor to be monitored because of chest pain. They ran an EKG and found no reason for the pain, (imagine that) but have to move her anyway because she insist the pain is there. So I ask her if mom knows she is calling me, because I called her room minutes earlier and she hung up on me, and she needs to speak with her and get another emergency contact. Swear I could HEAR the twitch from the other end.

Kimbee: sorry you are having a rough time. Sending you a big hug.
Cat: good luck with garage sale!!!
Emjo: hope your sorrow is easing up some.
Everyone: love you all to pieces!!!!!!
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Starshine14: Thanks for the tip. I'll try that.

Kimbee: I can't imagine you not being exhausted after taking your mom on vacation. I think that was an incredible effort on it's own. Sorry you have had such a hard week after coming home. You and your DH need a couple of days to your selves. By the way, bad Kimbee is always welcome here. Vent away any time you need too. Hope things improve this week.

Judy: Glad you have a precious picture of your brother. Sorry I didn't acknowledge that before. Also, I know how you feel about being able to walk on the beach. Being close to the ocean is a comfort to me. Glad you are home.

Well, today is Garage Sale day for me. Meaning we are having one. Wish us luck.

Hope everyone has a good day. Love, Cat
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cattails, an old farmer (retired) suggests baking the squash in the oven and then cutting it and removing the seeds. Makes it really easy to fix/eat.
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Judy, if it was photoscanned - then best to make sure one copy is laminated. I'm not sure the longevity of the ink from those scanners. Although I understand your point of view about the photo of your brother, I hate parting with any of MY photos.

Can you contact your cousin and ask her if she can take it to the photo shop and make a copy? It will look just like the original - but not as good, though - but you won't be able to tell if it's not sitting side-by-side together. It doesn't hurt to ask! Just say that a friend did this with an old photo and you were wondering if she can see if the photoshop can do it. I will admit I was SCARED of giving the original to them.

Also, you can do what my nieces do. If your photo is a good copy (or you can ask your cousin), take your cell phone, and photocopy it close. Then, you now have your brother's picture on your cellphone! and you can transfer a copy into your laptop!
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