Ever just want to tear your hair out, or someone else's? If you cannot restore a sense of balance, you will run away from home? Just want to say some things without the constraints of staying on topic? Well, this thread is for you! If you just need a short break to let it all hang out, be a brat, then come on, you can do it. No holding back! Go for it, you can do it.
DDDuck, You are ok, cannot imagine you are a narcissist (if that is what you said). And I for one am glad you are still standing after having to pass your sister in the hallway. I hope you can get out soon, have a safe place, be at peace. You weren't calling me a narcissist were you? Thems fighting words.
Lol.
However, beware of our friend Luckylu, I think she really does share bowls at her house....Lol?
I just hate to have to explain it is all in fun, because they might take the thread down again to clean it up again.
Posting these words: "Ever just want to tear your hair out, or someone else's?" was known to me as just a funny saying, not an actual event in real life.
For goodness sakes, don't actually do that....don't hurt anyone! I am so embarrassed if I have accidentally encouraged anyone to violence or assault.
Disclaimer,......disclaimer.......disclaimer.....and Gershun had nothing to do with the wording. Sorry.
The stop turned out to be related to the attempt to sell MIL's car. Hubs is the one organizing the trip to dealership to get bid, emails to get alternate bid from on-line broker ( I did help with that by entering info that hubs gathered while he was driving us to dinner), hubs (not FIL) driving MIL's car 45 miles each way to Carmax to get evaluated and bid to purchase, driving back up 55 miles each way to MIL/FIL house to take pics of car for on-line alternate bid because "we can't just take the first one"...and not one offer to pay for gas or a meal for hubs or grandson. My husband was offered part of a sandwich that FIL had ordered for himself and didn't want. *Huh.*
MIL has been trying to get me to do their taxes for free since February. I told hubs that he is financial POA for each of them AFTER the other one DIES (not by incompetence). His parents can dust off their wallet (thanks for image FF), and pay someone ELSE to do their taxes. I didn't do my mother's or my father's taxes, not free or for pay. My sister - who my son at college lives with - PAYS me to do her taxes every year and every other trip down insists on buying tank of gas to share visit costs since she doesn't drive up. My brother PAYS me for tax advice when he asks because he's now doing contract labor and been called a zillion times by former bosses for "free advice" after he left:) FIL/MIL have the money, believe me - FIL and MIL just believe that "family ought to do it and not expect..." Well, as long as it's not them being asked, that is.... sorry about rant. And I've been a hands-on caregiver all my life -- but FIL/MIL are not the next in line for ME. Husband can do what he wants, I will help him with research etc. But it is not my job to provide hands-on care or free financial services, regardless of what any of them think including hubs on some days *who thinks he's evolved past parent manipulation*.
You know, I wouldn't recommend you phrase it like this or anything, but what my SIL once said to my mother was 'we'd rather you came to us, because if we come to your house for lunch it wastes the whole day.' Not the most gracious way of putting it; but it is much better to be clear about what you yourself are happy to do, and if your husband wants to go and unblock drains and change lightbulbs and reboot the computer or whatever, then good luck and your blessing to him.
As for the favourite niece ploy - tchah. Do you look like you were born yesterday?!
Last Saturday, my husband and son were going out to help his brother work on a car. "Oh, honey, want to come with? We'll get to see bro and his wife, maybe you'll get to see fave niece...hmm? I *promise* that's the only stop." I declined politely, since his bro lives about 15 miles from FIL and MIL. There is *always a need to stop* at FIL and MIL's house now after her hospitalization and rehab in Feb, and they are still trying to get *me* since their son is "so busy" and I "only work part-time" (2 jobs 30-40 hours plus this is tax season for a couple of extra clients) to manage an ever-changing and increasing list of things they want done for them. I have told hubs not my circus. I worked on a client's taxes at my home. Come to find out later that hubs "just happened to stop by his parents and spent 15 minutes catching up". He griped about the tasks to be done and he spent about 15 minutes. Ya know it always used to take hours to do their list when I used to go and husband sat watching TV with FIL while I manage MIL with Parkinsons and her to-do list...
Veronica - I have had a great relationship with my UPS guy. He places the packages as close to the door as possible so they do not get wet even in the sloppiest of storms. USPS, on the other hand, places the packages right at the porch step where they would get wet if it rains.
And thanks for the tip. Cancelling the paper order and ordering pillows instead. Bwaaahaaa ha
I can't believe how many of my cousins, who are 60-75 do not have a computer device at home. I can't get along without a computer, and I do my clothes shopping on-line, which is usually trial and error when it comes to sizes :P
Dear Mail Lady, I am sorry that my ordering packages is such an inconvenience for you. Remember when we all thought that the postal service was going to go defunct because everyone went to emails and e-bills and stopped using the mail system. Well, ecommerce has saved your job.
So, now, every day tis week, I have been placing an order for something heavy from Amazon. Today, it is a case of copy paper. The 20 pound bag of dog food should be here tomorrow. Ha, take that grumpy Mail Lady.
Also found early contemplation of beatitudes by St Gregory of Nyssa.
" Beatitude is possession of all things held to be good from which nothing is absent that a good desire may want.
Perhaps the meaning of beatitude may become clearer to us if it is compared to it's opposite.
Now the opposite of beatitude is misery.
Misery means being afflicted unwillingly with painful sufferings "
cwillie don't know if St Gregory, whoever he was, makes anything clearer.
As far as your computer is concerned mine plays those games all the time. It also types the word it thinks I am about to put in which is very annoying
Did you mistakenly enter "B e a s t i t u d e s"???
Lol.
3 “[b]Blessed are the [c]poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
4 “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.
5 “Blessed are the [d]gentle, for they shall inherit the earth.
6 “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied.
7 “Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy.
8 “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.
9 “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.
10 “Blessed are those who have been persecuted for the sake of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
11 “Blessed are you when people insult you and persecute you, and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me. 12 Rejoice and be glad, for your reward in heaven is great; for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.
Maybe all I need is a comforting cat in addition to hubs. Hmmmm. Except, I have a cat allergy. Forgot.
My American Eskimo dog had special hair/fur that was non-allergic.
No pets allowed. Will go shopping instead.
Alison you certainly don't have time for a puppy but how about a pair of kittens from the same litter. They would keep each other company while you work and not need to be taken out for "walkies" or potty trained.
So mad at him right now, but he is so sweet, right? Grrrrr!
Didn't even get to finish the question. There was a woman in my house first thing next day with a whole basket of kittens. Two of whom got out and climbed the wallpaper, and stayed for the next eighteen years. You have been warned.
I want a cat or a dog, no kittens or puppies, please. Only because I don't have time to commit to little ones right now. There's an open cat shelter in Chicago. Maybe... I need to walk in there and let one pick me out as their new pet parent. That sounds really nice. I'd like some company, and a natural endorphin/oxytocin boost wouldn't hurt , either... (whatever it is that pets do for us that makes us less likely to be depressed).
Thanks for the trip down memory lane, Send
I'm like a math book lately, nothing but problems and since I was never good at math, I don't have any solutions
"Biggin'" "Jewel" and "Viola".It will so hard to have to say goodbye to some,but in the meantime I know this is a very special moment in time and I'm enjoying the extra work.And yeah Send,They're all over that junkroom now,roaming.Yesterday,one had orange all around it's mouth.All I could figure was that it must have sucked on some orange tissue paper under the bed.Bootsie is a very protective,good Mother.The babies are all healthy and I am very grateful.