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I need some emotional support. I think my Mother is OC, abusive, maybe some bipolar (Mom had a sister who was severe bipolar or just plain cruel) to everyone in the family. Mom has dimentia, but I don't know what kind.
I think unless you have a real diagnosis, you might consider "just plain mean" as a symptom and take her to the doctor. Urinary Tract Infections (UTI) and other illnesses can first present as behavioral problems....
I know it is hard to not search for a reason and labels are handy, but seriously have her evaluated first. Each person is unique - could be she has cavities and her teeth (or dentures) hurt - the list is endless.
Rule out the physical first before you turn to anything psychological. The only person who can make a diagnosis of any mental illness is a physician, who can in turn help you understand what your options are. At the same time, you might ask about screening for depression or anxiety - two of the worst things that happen to caregivers with parents in their direct care.
As far as your state of mind goes, remember that sometimes it is a real stress reliever to go outside in the sun, and to laugh / exercise. Although it is hard, the more you think about the insults or bad behavior the more you will reinforce your own emotions about them. Walk away - use the Jackie Marcell emotional shield and watch a funny movie or talk to a friend. If you have a pet give it a hug or take it for a walk!
Dwelling on the negative can put you into a depressed state and you won't be able to take any action.
Sally, OC? I have similar concerns regarding my mom. It is often difficult to pinpoint things, even with the help of a physician, but worth trying. Take your time, and keep a journal of your observations. It will help you sort things, because it can be quite a journey. Wishing you the best...
Hello Sally, you've certainly come to the right place for some support!! First take a deep breath! I've come to realize that there are no right or wrong answers. You need to do what YOU can. What is it that you can do right now? Don't worry about everything all at once. If you did that then I'm sure it feels like you're getting no where. Do you live with your mom or does she live with you? Alone? Have you personally spoken with her Dr? What do they say? Her sister might have been "just plain cruel", but everyone is different. When you look at your mom, try not to think of her sister. Your mom might feel confused and not know whats going on so might lash out at people. Its common, but its how WE handle the result of it.
There are around 10 types of Dementia. Dementia symptoms can also be caused by an infection. So first, get the advice of a doctor!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I know it is hard to not search for a reason and labels are handy, but seriously have her evaluated first. Each person is unique - could be she has cavities and her teeth (or dentures) hurt - the list is endless.
Rule out the physical first before you turn to anything psychological. The only person who can make a diagnosis of any mental illness is a physician, who can in turn help you understand what your options are. At the same time, you might ask about screening for depression or anxiety - two of the worst things that happen to caregivers with parents in their direct care.
As far as your state of mind goes, remember that sometimes it is a real stress reliever to go outside in the sun, and to laugh / exercise. Although it is hard, the more you think about the insults or bad behavior the more you will reinforce your own emotions about them. Walk away - use the Jackie Marcell emotional shield and watch a funny movie or talk to a friend. If you have a pet give it a hug or take it for a walk!
Dwelling on the negative can put you into a depressed state and you won't be able to take any action.
There are around 10 types of Dementia. Dementia symptoms can also be caused by an infection. So first, get the advice of a doctor!