The doc and I talked to Ron about his guns and he said he would let me lock them up. So while he was sleeping I gathered them all and put them in a combination lock box NOW, when he wakes up it may be a different story. His doc said he did not need guns around because he may mistaken me for a burgler and shoot me. I don't know how this will turn out. Has anyone had this problem and what do I do if he has a fit. Thank you
I think you need to call the doctor and discuss this.
Part of caring for a dementia patient is not taking their anger am accusations personally. MUCH easier said than done, and no I am not caring for a dementia patient at home, as you are. You may need to start thinking about whether your husband and you would be safer/happier/more content if he was in memory care.
What meds is he on? Is he on an antidepressant ? I ask because the one gun, one bullet thing sounds vaguely like suicidal ideation to me.
Did you talk to the doctor about his angry moods?
It's such a huge safety issue that I would make up my mind that no matter what, he is not getting the guns. I would remove them from the house. Eventually, he will adjust.
Even if they are locked up, on a good day, he could figure out how to work the lock. Or if there is a combination lock, on a good day, he figures it out. It's not worth it.
Also, there is no way to avoid a dementia patient never getting upset, angry or frustrated. It happens for any reason or no reason. Pleasing him sounds like it's very important to you and I really hope you don't let that hinder you from protecting yourself. If you are scared of him, get some family or friends to be there when he finds out the guns are gone.