Mom doesn’t understand it’s okay to soil her diaper. She wants to get up and go to the bathroom. She can get up occasionally but for the most part she is bedridden. She asks repeatedly to go to the bathroom but decides she can’t get up so she asks how do I go pee? I tell her it’s okay to pee in her diaper but she just doesn’t understand. She says she’ll get a spanking for doing that in the bed or her pants. It’s sad, we spend so much time teaching our children to use the toilet and when we get old we have to unlearn proper hygiene and social learning. How do I get her to understand it’s okay?
Ah well, such is life. 🤷♀️
I saw this: https://www.handicappedequipment.org/bed-pans-for-the-bedridden/
You might check Senior Care Products at the bottom of this website and your local stores for similar products.
If you can't get her on a bedpan, there are bed pads used for incontinence and maybe that would be an option to slide under her wherever she is, then remove.
I also saw this for "bedridden and continent" which may be an idea:
https://www.independentliving.co.uk/cp-editorials/toileting-in-bed-incontinence-protection/
Looks pretty involved, but maybe there are other similar things.
Others here will likely have more ideas, too.