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Here's toxic advice about living with a hoarder from a hoarder.

"Just let her do it, let her be happy shopping and pay the credit bill, live in a hoarding house. You only live once."

I actually read this one today.
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🥰 today’s words of wisdom against toxic/dysfunctional people:

🙂 🙂 "I envy all the people who have never met you."
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When you leave the “wrong people” behind, the right things start happening.
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…Sometimes “gosh darn” and “meanie head” just don’t cut it.
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today’s words of wisdom
(i gotta apply that to myself, too)

🥰 “If you want to fly, give up everything that weighs you down.”
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One symptom of narcolepsy is insomnia.

I wear my smartwatch almost every night. I added up the nights on 
which I slept for 6 hours or more from Jan 1 until yesterday. The 
results were that I only slept an average of 6.85 hours on 29 of 
those days which I slept for at least 6 hours over the past almost 9 months. 

I'm sending this to my neurologist, my PC who I see tomorrow and maybe my
endocrinologist.
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I'm so sorry Yoda!! 😞 Best of luck get that all figured out.
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Anxietynacy,

I couldn't press click due to the subject. I am very sorry that you are having to learn about that subject. If you talk with those who work in that area, they will tell you that the statistics are way off. A good book on this subject without having to go into as much detail as it sounds you have heard is The Body Keeps Score.

To keep from getting on a roll with this subject, I'll close with this. Such is worse in a single-parent situation, particularly with an only child of the opposite sex. If I say anymore, it will become mount everast.

Goodbye, I have to call a guardianship lawyer concerning my wife who has suddenly gotten into what I think is manic spending beyond reason which her sister saw evidence of last week and I've shared with her therapist who she sees tomorrow. I've tried talking with her about this as has her sister, but no luck. It is a very sad day, but why people set up medical and durable POAs. Sufficient to say, but the credit card debt is about to exceed $9,000 which it will take her inheritance money to pay for which means less money for staying in a continuing care place which her sister and us will soon be looking over. This is a sad day.
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Speaking of disfuctional families, I've been watching the show , Monsters, about the Mendenze trial and family,
On Netflix.

It is very disturbing to watch, definitely not for everyone. I've never heard sexual abuse, explained in such detail and what it does to a childs brain.

I won't say I like the show but it is educational, I guess.
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toxic/dysfunctional people:

“Fine, we’ll compromise.
I’ll get my way & you’ll find a way to be OK with that.”
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bundleofjoy,

I have shared two of your jokes on a childhood trauma page because they can appreciate them as well.

I shared,

"I saw a store that has a sign that reads
"We treat you like family!"

Yup,
NOT going in there."

and

"Monsters are real
and they look like people...
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Anxietynacy,

I suspect so also. I will tell them.
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🙂 🙂 
Anything that costs you your peace
is too expensive.
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Monsters are real
and they look like people...
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😇😇😇
Sometimes the first step to forgiveness is
understanding the other person is a complete idiot.
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I saw a store that has a sign that reads
"We treat you like family!"

Yup,
NOT going in there.
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Yoda, I would suspect yes, but I have no clue. But I'm thinking they have to prevent hoarding, because of fire prevention, and critters.

Im wondering if in there contract it says something
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I am asking this for a friend.

Can someone be thrown out of assisted living if they constantly live in clutter which they keep increasing?
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Hothouse - that's great. So happy for you. I felt such a burden lifted when the estate business was over and I could cut contact with my sis. Never felt so safe in my life!!! It was wonderful.

scampie (((((hugs))))

bundle - good ones
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Oh house flower, I can't wait for that day!!!


I'm glad things are wrapping up for you.
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Closing on my parents house is next week. Can’t wait to close the book on this situation. Still have dad in NH but at least the estate is done because it was all in my mothers name. Medicaid will take its due and I won’t need to have my siblings in my life anymore. It’s sad to write something as miserable as this but as my mother would famously say “It is what it is. “
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🤮 I try to wear my angel wings every day.
But sometimes I’d like to take them off and beat somebody with them.
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🤷‍♀️ I feel like I’m in season 5 of my life and the writers are just making ridiculous stuff happen to keep it interesting.
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🙄 Have you ever just sat and thought…
I’ve been through a lot of stuff…
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Scampi, I'm so sorry about your brother.
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My family was dysfunctional as he!!. My older sister was horrible to me and the golden child of the family. My parents took turns being immature jerks and threw all their responsibilities on me including my disabled sister. My older brother was the only one who cared about me even though he was fighting his own demons. He passed away this past February from cancer. I have another brother, but we are not close. Even though most of them are dead now, the trouble makers are still around.

I still have nightmares about them from time to time. My fibromyalgia is flaring up due to the damp weather here in DC.

Al-Anon was my saving grace, and all of the long time members have passed on and just a few of us from our old groups are still around.
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🙂 i tried to drown my sorrows, but the bastards learned how to swim...
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🙂 I love long walks away
from everyone.
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i've said it before, but just want to say it again:

🙂 i'm stuck between a rock
and someone i want to hit it with.
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I've known this for a while but never really cared or understood the ramifications of it.

I never ever wanted anything from my mom, but I always wanted what is best for her.

My younger brother who is POA, mom must of done a quick sale, because my brother is on the deed also.

When he did something, like the roof he acted like he was God, "I do this I do that" . It's his darn house!!

His house that he is really ruining at this point. Never put the gutters back up, after he did part of the roof. Now there is mold in the basement, an addition ceiling fell in and it was fixed but never painted been like that for 2 plus years. The shingles from the roof are illegally dumped in the back yard. Gutters from the other part of the house completely full and more mold. He paid to have a shower put in but the bathroom is still all torn apart, for 6 months.

And he is off boating all weekend every weekend with my ex. Many trees dead, one that will knock her power out when it goes

The worst part is Mom will never be able to go to an AL or a decent NH, now. And I'm sure this is why my sister disappeared.

I know he has health issues from 911, and serious PTSD, and we are taught to look up to those who serve are country but......

Just needed some venting

It makes me sad that mom is living this way
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