Now that my husband has been placed in a facility, new issues arise. Is it to be expected that he would lose his glasses, have on other peoples clothing, shoes, glasses and personal items? He has been there almost two months now and it is a beautiful memory care facility. The staff are very nice, there are many activities, outings and a nice courtyard for walks outside anytime. I feel so fortunate to have gotten him in this facility. However, the issues with missing items is frustrating. For example, this week he had on shoes that were at least two sizes too big, shirts, belts, socks and most items he was wearing were not his. I saw one of his shirts on another person. I mentioned it to another wife and she said don't worry yourself with those things. There are 60 people there and it's hard to keep people from laying things around. She said at least he's fed, clothed and sheltered. Yesterday I collected some of the things and took them to the desk and said these are not his. I made him redress in his own clothes and shoes. But many of his things are not there. He squints and never has glasses even though I had another pair made. So,he has two pair of glasses floating around the place. Sorry to be so long-winded but I'm thinking I might need to chill and just forget it. I'm still trying to recover from the years of caregiving at home. Has anyone else dealt with these issues? Carol
Mom looked sad and said no, she wasn't able to shower any longer.
What???? Mom had no " why". She just shrugged.
After a great deal of detective work, it transpired that mom ( who had dementia) had decided that she would have to stand to shower. She knew she could no longer stand for long.
With some assurance that there was a shower chair (which she'd been using all along) and shower her the shower set up during a non bathing time, she was able to be bathed again.
You have no way of knowing what is going on in your husband's broken brain. But try walking him to the shower room during a time when it's not in use and you may find out what's putting him off.