We are guardians of my husband's 3 yr younger sister. (62). She is divorced, has two children who live close but won't step up and help. She still lives by herself, but is getting close to needing either daytime help or go to AL. She wants neither, but we see no alternative. How to approach? Her mom is still alive and is denial of daughters diagnosis. Is care taking of a sibling than care taking of a spouse!
It is VERY VERY HARD to figure out how to get help. I struggle with this every day.
If money isn't a problem, you might try telling your sister in law that she shouldn't have to cook and clean any longer, and you are giving her the gift of a cleaning person. Then the "cleaning person" is actually a daytime caregiver. OR you can tell her the "cleaning person" needs money so you are paying her to work a few hours every day as a kindness. Or perhaps you could convince her to share her home with a grad student who could provide part-time care?