My husband has heart failure and dementia and I have failing vision and complications from TBI and a recent stroke. We got a POA to take over her checking account approx 2 years ago due to a nephew who stole large sums from her bank account and used her name to open numerous credit cards and loans. The bank manager told us she refused to press charges. A neighbor called APS, who told us she could no longer live alone. We tried to have her placed in nursing home, but could not afford the 8,000 month cost. We moved to another city in MS, in hopes of finding a less expensive non-profit nursing home which would accept her. She has been placed on waiting list..in meantime she has been increasingly angier and hostile towards us, as she did not want to live with us, wanted to go live on her own. She has run away and reaches highway. We cannot control her. She has injured my husband by slamming a door on his hand and biting him, and kicks and pulls my hair, scratches with her nails, which she chews on and are ragged, yet she refuses to file/smooth them or let anyone else do so. Our health has deteriorated more since her stay with us. After she fell and broke her hip she was sent to rehab who discharged her because they did not use chemical restraint, and sent her to nearby hospital which did. Two nursing homes refused her due to behavioral issues and also because she was refused medicaid because she refused to press charges against the nephew. I was told to come get her. I told them no, that I could no longer care for her due to recent stroke , worsening vision and concerns re my husbands worsening heart condition and dementia. The social worker at hospital called few days later a saying they found a nursing home for her, and for me to come get ger and take her there. It is the first home which rejected her. I refused to come, as I was told she was penalized, and the nursing home called and asked me how long penalty phase was. I had called medicare and medicaid ro find out, but no one will return my calls. I cannot and will not go bring her back to our home. I will not sign any papers they are requesting I sign. Her other nephew refuses also. I am struggling to care for my husband and myself at this point. I hope someone reading this can help. We cannot afford legal help.
No, you are not committing a crime, the APS is by not arranging for her transfer to much needed facility care.
Stand firm.
How sad.
I hope you'll remain to advise our OPs as they write in questions.
(Perhaps we can thereby move the meter up to a buck-fifty?)
If you notice, there is a whole lot of advice on this thread. And our OP for some reason chose from the beginning not to participate or to answer many questions. This happens on Forum likely 40% of the time. It's never good that, as it gets us talking to ourselves and one another instead of our OPs.
The truth is that CannotContinue got a whole lot of answers, including your own. Including the advice that an attorney in the OP's area be consulted. So she/he had lots to choose from.
That's what the Forum is about. And that's why some of us love it.
Stay and help our OPs. Leave, if you prefer. The choice is yours unless and until the admins decide this is perhaps not the best place for you to contribute advice.