My husband and I have been invited to our son's in-law's 50th wedding anniversary party about 550 miles away. It is also a chance to see our son and family who we haven't seen in a year. My dilemma is my mom was just put on hospice today. She is 95 years old and lives in a memory care facility. She fell and broke her hip 2 months ago and has really gone down hill since. If she should pass while I'm gone, I don't know if I could forgive myself for not being there. She is at the point where conversation is gibberish and she sleeps a lot. Am I being selfish if I go on this trip? It would be in 2 weeks.
If by chance she passes while you are away that is too bad but you've been there for her ... fyi on every given day everyone has a 0.2739 % chance of dieing -
Unless dr says she will go within 72 hours then go - your r.s.v.p. should say you are planning on coming but there is a small chance you may have to back out at last minute & you'll call to tell them
Your mom's need is more immediate. There will be another time for visiting with your son and his family. Be there for your Mom in her final journey from this Earth. You will never regret it. My good thoughts are with you for a peaceful passage for her and peace I'm your heart knowing that you made the right decision. No, you are not being selfish, just a bit confused in your priorities. I hope this had helped to enlighten you.