Staff knows but does not seem like its a priority/ unwilling to medicate more
not fair to my mom who is bedridden and forced to endure ongoing disturbing cries for help seems to me a basic right to not be subjected to that but I dont see it written in patient rights
I am beginning to be concerned if my husband needs a facility, he may be a help, help offender. Fortunately, it is not constant but he often looks at me and answers he doesn't know when I ask what he needs. If I suggest maybe he needs to go to the bathroom or walk around he often says yes. If he says yes to the bathroom he either really needs to go or he just went in his brief and needs a change. Staff members in a facility often don't have time to get to know the residents to find simple solutions to improve annoying situations.
* Find out what their policy is and their legal obligations.
And, as others have said, this behavior is very common in individuals with dementia so you might need to transfer her to another facility and pay for a private room.
It is a very unfortunate and difficult situation for many.
Gena / Touch Matters
So far as I know, there IS no solution to this, even private rooms unless they are sound proof. Blasting Admin with a recording might be a quick way to get a suggestion that you might be more comfortable in a different facility. If the ‘help helper’ is your own relative, you probably feel differently.
My MIL was in a rehab facility where a patient was also doing it. Wasn't in her room, but was clearly heard by all in the very tiny facility. No one sleeps well while trying to recover from their injuries/illnesses. When my MIL was in a LTC facility with a roommate who was disruptive, we asked that either she be moved or the roommate. It happened more than once over the years and she was always accommodated.
I so hope those building new facilities make the rooms for one person. A closet, a dresser, side table and hospital bed. It would so make things easier all around.
Seriously, it is and will always be about the money, The only surefire way OP's mom would be moved is if she could "strike back" at the other resident. Since mom is bedridden, then this makes it easier for the facility to keep her where she is. (what is mom going to do? get out of bed and hit her?)
Whoever approved the room assignments probably knows this.
Another true story in the facility, there was a resident who moved several times to different rooms Why? She was a real firecracker, and would argue, almost to the point of hitting her roommate. To keep the peace she was able to move, which would last all of a few days, then the issue would start again. Had to give it to her, she took no mess.
End result she was discharged after an accusation of hitting a nurse. The facility put her up in a motel for a week until she could plan her next steps. I hope she is doing okay. She is a real "fighter"
As seen, they stick loud aggressive dementia patients with quieter ones who take the brunt of the former’s attacks and antisocial behavior.
Were I you, I would encourage mom to socialize throughout the facility to find a mutually compatible rooomate.
They did this at the facility, with the resident who would say "help me" cry, then bang on the table to get the aides attention. She was with another resident who was "out of it", (same resident who threw water on the nurse when her husband was discharged before her).