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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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Go with her and visit a few Senior Day facilities and Senior Centers, maybe she will be willing to give them a try. My Mom has lived with me for 16 years and then my father-in-law came to live with us, it was hard at first, just like it would be for anyone. Remember how hard it was for our children when they are out of school for the summer, "I'm Board!!!!".
We checked out all the senior faclities in the area, my Mom went to a Adult Day Care, she needed medical supervision and my father-in-law went to the local Senior Center and really enjoyed going on the senior trips. Neither of them wanted to go at first but I suggested they give it a try and they agreed. This saved me from always being their activity director.
I also planned short excursions for them, out to dinner, church, trips to store, until they started getting lost. I found a short trip would wear them out and they would need to rest giving me time to go out and get some things down without them.
We made trips to visit family and we even made a wonderful trip to England on the Queen Mary II. I just had to organize and arranged for help with two wheelchairs and bags.
I even found a bridge club for my Mom to join. I also gave them household chores to do, clean their rooms, do their own laundry, Mom cleaned their bathroom, of course this was when they were able. Does she like to cook, maybe she would like to prepare a meal for the family. Good luck
She needs to make friends! Aren't there any older ladies in the area that you could introduce her to? Perhaps from church or just anyone you know from anywhere. Is she physically able to carry out normal tasks? If so, maybe she could even go visit a senior home and help out there. She could make a few friends that way and who knows, she might decide to stay! lol.
Why did your husband and you ever agree to this? Sounds like she just wanted to intrude upon your life right at the time you were looking forward to. Has she tried things like this in the past? Possibly she regrets this choice and can't say so, but if realistically possible should go back home where her friends are. Otherwise, it is like she is punishing ya'll for her choice.
Does she have the capacity to go back for a visit on her own? Does she have anyone that she can stay with for a week or whatever? Sounds like she's homesick.
wonder if she would like to go to the adult care place . where she could do something fun with people her age ? take her out drivin around go back to the old hometown and enjoy it there ? when my pa is deathly bored i take him out drivin around and he realy likes that . play the disc of his fav music and go curising around , since he refuses to go to adult daycare . so . keep him busy jammin music and enjoy the ride ...
Do we give her sympathy or just ignore her. We warned her it would be like this so it's hard not to feel bitter that we now have an extra responsibility when we have just retired and wanted to spend this time to do the things we want to do. She is 85 years old and uses a cane.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
We checked out all the senior faclities in the area, my Mom went to a Adult Day Care, she needed medical supervision and my father-in-law went to the local Senior Center and really enjoyed going on the senior trips. Neither of them wanted to go at first but I suggested they give it a try and they agreed. This saved me from always being their activity director.
I also planned short excursions for them, out to dinner, church, trips to store, until they started getting lost. I found a short trip would wear them out and they would need to rest giving me time to go out and get some things down without them.
We made trips to visit family and we even made a wonderful trip to England on the Queen Mary II. I just had to organize and arranged for help with two wheelchairs and bags.
I even found a bridge club for my Mom to join. I also gave them household chores to do, clean their rooms, do their own laundry, Mom cleaned their bathroom, of course this was when they were able. Does she like to cook, maybe she would like to prepare a meal for the family. Good luck
when my pa is deathly bored i take him out drivin around and he realy likes that . play the disc of his fav music and go curising around , since he refuses to go to adult daycare . so . keep him busy jammin music and enjoy the ride ...