He won't leave me alone. I am coping with PostMemopausalDepression, hypertension, chronic insominia and chronic fatigue syndrome; none of which my ex understands at his age and our 20 age difference gap. I get extremely stressed just on the phone with him. In person repeating things over and over and talking LOUD to him makes me miserable. In a restaurant recently he started crying about a n cat he had taken in and it died: everyone in the restaurant looked at me like I was making him cry! I don't go in public with him anymore. He contact my therapist and told them I was mean to him! I think now I must totally avoid him as he is a danger to me. I won't be with him when he drives as he drives dangerously. Because he comes across as a "nice old man' to everyone else, I'm taking the blame . Any advice? Very frustrated.
Also, please report him to the DMV if you are concerned that he puts other people at risk when he drives.
Cut off your contacts with him, but consider reporting him to APS as someone who may be a danger to himself.