The social worker suggested I say that she and I are both going somewhere that we both can be cared for as we both need more care now. Does anyone have ideas about this or been through the same transition and how you handled it? My mom went to a memory care home for two months last summer and she was totally distraught about it. It was a bad experience in terms of her care so was brought back home. What can I say to a demented
person who is very anxious and fearful?? I already did in-home hospice for my brother for eight months until the day he died with only me by his side and do not have the strength to do that again.
My husband was under in home hospice care for the last 22 months of his life after coming out of a hospice home because he didn't die as quickly as they had thought and then again went in for a few weeks to get his pain under control. His care was by far much better than any care he received from the in home hospice staff.
If my husband wouldn't have made his wishes known that he wanted to die at home, I would have let them take him back to the hospice home for his final weeks, as I know it would have been a much more peaceful transition for him and not so traumatic for me, but I honored his wishes.
If your mom is in late stage dementia, she won't remember what you tell her anyway so just share your excitement with her on how beautiful the place is and how nice everyone is.
I wish you and your mom the best.
I am sorry you are losing your mom and I pray that you receive peace, comfort and rest during this difficult time.