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You wrote that question in 2020. I so hope in that time you have gotten Social Security Disability at least SSI (supplimental income) Medicaid and Medicare. Also, you are living in a nice apt. So financially your not rich but ur making it.
At 62 what are your medical problems? I had a friend in your situation, her problem was she was passive-aggressive and expected people to do for her. She refused to use senior busing or Medicaid to get some help with an aide. I know she felt this was all below her and that friends should pick up the slack. But friends and family have lives of their own. At 62 my friend had a defibrillator and diabetes.
Could you be considered 24/7 care? If so, maybe its time to return to a NH. You can research them and find one you like. I know they are not perfect but you will have some socialization and the peace of mind that a nurse is close by if you need them.
You could also call your local Office of Aging to see if they know of any programs for companionship. Someone to call and see if your OK. Maybe visit a little each day and get you out of the house.
So sorry, but the only person you can rely on is you. You need to do the research and you need to follow thru.
On a previous thread, you wrote: "While I was living in Texas, I spent the last four years in Nursing Homes and to me it did feel like prison. There really isn’t much to do in those places. Yea they had some activities going on but not much. Maybe Bingo. You were lucky if you got outside, otherwise you were stuck in your room in bed with just the TV to watch."
I hope you're OK. I hope some friends living near you, can help you.
Gosh, you're awful young to be having bad health issues. I hope you're doing everything in your power to get healthy again. I'm 63 and live alone, but am in overall good health, and I certainly don't want to have to rely on my family if something were to come up, although they would help out best they could. But my children both work and have families of their own, so it would be selfish of me to want them to drop everything to help me. At our age it's important to a have a network of friends that we can call on if needed, and for us to be involved in many different things to be able to make new friends as well. Church is a great place for that along with many volunteer opportunities. We can't force anyone to care about us or to check on us. However we can be the ones that check in with them. Why don't you just send your family texts every now and again, checking in on them? That way they will know that you care about them,(as care has to be a 2 way street)and they will know that you're ok. You can also check with your local Senior Services, as they have volunteers that will come out and "check on you." They also have many other options that may work for you. I wish you well.
You need to take some initiative for your own health and well-being and not assume that family will step in. If you just need some one to check on you to see if you are OK and you don't need any hands on help, some areas have elder volunteers who call daily if you sign up for that service. Your local agency on aging can give you information on this and other resources. Moving to a 55+ independent living community can be helpful, or if your health is bad enough that you need closer monitoring, maybe assisted living. 62 is very young, and quite a few people on AC are caregivers themselves at this age.
Talk to your doctor about what you actually need. You don't give any details about your health or needs, so we can't really weigh in here.
This forum is for caregivers, by the way, not care-seekers, so we might not be the best place to ask. If your family is aware of your health issues and doesn't want to help, that's not really something we can address.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You wrote that question in 2020. I so hope in that time you have gotten Social Security Disability at least SSI (supplimental income) Medicaid and Medicare. Also, you are living in a nice apt. So financially your not rich but ur making it.
At 62 what are your medical problems? I had a friend in your situation, her problem was she was passive-aggressive and expected people to do for her. She refused to use senior busing or Medicaid to get some help with an aide. I know she felt this was all below her and that friends should pick up the slack. But friends and family have lives of their own. At 62 my friend had a defibrillator and diabetes.
Could you be considered 24/7 care? If so, maybe its time to return to a NH. You can research them and find one you like. I know they are not perfect but you will have some socialization and the peace of mind that a nurse is close by if you need them.
You could also call your local Office of Aging to see if they know of any programs for companionship. Someone to call and see if your OK. Maybe visit a little each day and get you out of the house.
So sorry, but the only person you can rely on is you. You need to do the research and you need to follow thru.
"While I was living in Texas, I spent the last four years in Nursing Homes and to me it did feel like prison. There really isn’t much to do in those places. Yea they had some activities going on but not much. Maybe Bingo. You were lucky if you got outside, otherwise you were stuck in your room in bed with just the TV to watch."
I hope you're OK. I hope some friends living near you, can help you.
I'm 63 and live alone, but am in overall good health, and I certainly don't want to have to rely on my family if something were to come up, although they would help out best they could. But my children both work and have families of their own, so it would be selfish of me to want them to drop everything to help me.
At our age it's important to a have a network of friends that we can call on if needed, and for us to be involved in many different things to be able to make new friends as well. Church is a great place for that along with many volunteer opportunities.
We can't force anyone to care about us or to check on us. However we can be the ones that check in with them. Why don't you just send your family texts every now and again, checking in on them? That way they will know that you care about them,(as care has to be a 2 way street)and they will know that you're ok.
You can also check with your local Senior Services, as they have volunteers that will come out and "check on you." They also have many other options that may work for you.
I wish you well.
This forum is for caregivers, by the way, not care-seekers, so we might not be the best place to ask. If your family is aware of your health issues and doesn't want to help, that's not really something we can address.