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Give notice that you can no longer care for this woman . You don’t need to live with the fear of , or actual accusations , or charges . If you are POA, go to a lawyer to formerly give it up .
This woman is not your responsibility . Remove yourself from this family.
We really need more info. Are you POA? If so, have you kept good records? Are you being paid and if so, do you have paperwork backing that up? Maybe POA says it?
Since you are doing the caregiving, he must be claiming you are finacially defrauding his Mom. I agree, call your licensing board and APS. APS will investigate and if they find nothing than ur in the clear. Ur ex needs to realize that you will not be sticky around if he tries to sue you. That you will turn the care over to him. If he does not take on that responsibility, you will call APS, tell them why you must leave and that you will be leaving a vulnerable adult. You will be giving APS his phone number.
Inform him you can no longer care for her. If she is residing in her own home you can tell him that as of ------------date he will have to find another caregiver. If he does not then you report to APS a "vulnerable senior". Are you POA? If so send notice to your ex-MIL's son and Attorney that you are withdrawing as POA. If ex-MIL is not competent to select another POA then Guardianship will have to be established. Caregiving is stressful enough without adding this stress, and what I would call mental abuse. If she is residing in your home that puts another level of stress and difficulty in stepping back. Short of doing an ER drop or dropping her off at her son's you may have to file a legal eviction.
You're under no obligation to be the caregiver to your former MIL. So walk away. I'm going to assume that the son who is threatening to sue you for 'trumped charges' is your ex-husband and that 'trumped charges' means false charges because he's being a petty little tool like so many ex-husbands tend to be.
If I were you I'd tell him to go 'walk' himself (assume that I mean a different 4-letter word here) and walk away today. Let him see how he likes organizing and PAYING for homecare to come and be responsible for his mother and her needs.
If you still have a valid RN license, you should call the Licensing Board in your state and tell them that you provide care for your ex-MIL and that your ex-husband is being spiteful and is threatening to cause trouble for you. Then you give APS a call and tell them the same thing.
Take your former MIL to a hospital ER. You have to come first and protecting your professional reputation has to come before caregiving for your ex-MIL. As an RN you will know what to tell them at the hospital ER if your ex or the rest of her family won't take any responsibility for her.
I'm sorry for the situation you find yourself in. Good luck.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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This woman is not your responsibility .
Remove yourself from this family.
Since you are doing the caregiving, he must be claiming you are finacially defrauding his Mom. I agree, call your licensing board and APS. APS will investigate and if they find nothing than ur in the clear. Ur ex needs to realize that you will not be sticky around if he tries to sue you. That you will turn the care over to him. If he does not take on that responsibility, you will call APS, tell them why you must leave and that you will be leaving a vulnerable adult. You will be giving APS his phone number.
If she is residing in her own home you can tell him that as of ------------date he will have to find another caregiver.
If he does not then you report to APS a "vulnerable senior".
Are you POA? If so send notice to your ex-MIL's son and Attorney that you are withdrawing as POA. If ex-MIL is not competent to select another POA then Guardianship will have to be established.
Caregiving is stressful enough without adding this stress, and what I would call mental abuse.
If she is residing in your home that puts another level of stress and difficulty in stepping back. Short of doing an ER drop or dropping her off at her son's you may have to file a legal eviction.
If I were you I'd tell him to go 'walk' himself (assume that I mean a different 4-letter word here) and walk away today. Let him see how he likes organizing and PAYING for homecare to come and be responsible for his mother and her needs.
If you still have a valid RN license, you should call the Licensing Board in your state and tell them that you provide care for your ex-MIL and that your ex-husband is being spiteful and is threatening to cause trouble for you. Then you give APS a call and tell them the same thing.
Take your former MIL to a hospital ER. You have to come first and protecting your professional reputation has to come before caregiving for your ex-MIL. As an RN you will know what to tell them at the hospital ER if your ex or the rest of her family won't take any responsibility for her.
I'm sorry for the situation you find yourself in. Good luck.
Give him your month's notice. That should give him ample time to find a replacement.
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