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Yespecially. I would contact SPS, the sooner the better. You can stay anonymous as a rule of thumb, but you can also tell how her hime is unsafe. Let them decide. If it is how you suggest. I don't believe APS will allow her to stay in a house in that condition. But, do not let her move in with family. That will be a very bad situation just by what you say in your message. She would be best in a AL facility. She may not like it, but it is best for everyone's me tak and physical health.
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Please call APS as soon as possible. I've been there with my mom who was born and raised during the depression. She was a hoarder also but, kept the livingroom and kitchen pretty decent. The rest was reachable but, dangerous to navigate around shelves of home canned items, quilt scraps, odds and ends, etc.

You can do as I finally did, take a video with your phone. I took mom to the dr for appts. and always took written info on how she really was or what she had been doing. She fell pretty much every day. I finally handed the phone to her dr. while mom was in the lab getting blood drawn. The dr. watched the video and was stunned. She was the reason we finally got mom into a NH for rehab and then into the memory unit. The house sits there now since medicaide has put a lien on it for MERP. We hauled a 16' trailer of home canned items, stacked almost 4' high, to a lady with hogs. And didn't get to finish removing the rest. I took the sewing machine I helped her get and my machine she had been using to fill bobbins and some of her corning ware for the grand daughters hope chest. We locked it up securely, including the garage with freezers filled with food, the shed and the fences gates. Burglars broke in over and over. We just gave up. I get letters from the county and tax office telling me I had to pay for everything. NO, I do not. There wasn't enough money to pay for her funeral after the facility got their payment. My husband and I paid it and got 2/3's of it back. My 2 brothers and I do not want the property since it is in a drug dealing area. No will to be found. Those who send letters for payments get a copy of her death certificate mailed to them.

Get out from under that mess or it will swallow you too. Prayers for you. I still feel a bit of guilt over not taking her home but, she refused to let anyone help her. Her choice. Not mine. I have enough on my hands now with caring for my husband.
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I did. I called APS.
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No, that would not be “the end of that”. Call APS and have them do a welfare check.

(It can be difficult to sort out because there are multiple problems/issues that you are worried about going on at the same time and getting muddled together. But call APS. Everything else can be sorted out afterwards.)
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I would call APS, tell them the situation.  they will check on her and make a determination if she can live there.  Let them know that you cannot take her in and I would think they would find some place for her to be (and especially since she has sores that won't heal), it can be covered by Medicaid.  they will condemn the house and then things can be either destroyed, thrown out or let the "brother" handle what he wants.  wishing you luck.
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