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Yvonnesita16, No one person can do this alone, or in isolation. It is not sustainable for anyone. Burnout is a serious condition, even requiring calling 911 if you cannot help yourself or your spouse. There is no shame in that. Maybe ask for APS-Adult Protective Services, by dialing 911.
Please come back and try to answer some questions to get the help you need today. Or, add new comments. If you have not yet been able to get PT out to help your husband, do that.
I understand burnout, but no one can help you if you do not take the first step. Asking for help through private messaging is not going to get you help from a random stranger. So, for your benefit, I am answering you here. You may need to help yourself first, before getting help for your husband.
Maybe you could not find your way back to the question you asked in October 2025?
Some things get better just because it's Spring, and always something good to look forward to. As long as you are safe, hydrated, fed, and clean can you take this one day at a time?
Caregivers...can you come alongside Yvonnesita and resurrect this thread? None of us have any idea how bad this is for her if she does not say.
Be careful what you wish for my dear. If your husband was walking with a walker prior to him now being bedridden, it means that he was already having trouble walking, And now that he is bedridden his legs have become even weaker and if he would try to walk again he would be falling over and over, and could possibly get seriously hurt and who would pick him up? You? If your husbands care is now too much for you, please look into having him placed in the appropriate facility. And if money is an issue you can apply for Medicaid. You matter too in this equation so please take good care of yourself.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
No one person can do this alone, or in isolation. It is not sustainable for anyone.
Burnout is a serious condition, even requiring calling 911 if you cannot help yourself or your spouse. There is no shame in that. Maybe ask for APS-Adult Protective Services, by dialing 911.
Please come back and try to answer some questions to get the help you need today. Or, add new comments. If you have not yet been able to get PT out to help your husband, do that.
I understand burnout, but no one can help you if you do not take the first step.
Asking for help through private messaging is not going to get you help from a random stranger. So, for your benefit, I am answering you here. You may need to help yourself first, before getting help for your husband.
Maybe you could not find your way back to the question you asked in October 2025?
Some things get better just because it's Spring, and always something good to look forward to. As long as you are safe, hydrated, fed, and clean can you take this one day at a time?
Caregivers...can you come alongside Yvonnesita and resurrect this thread?
None of us have any idea how bad this is for her if she does not say.
Love and concern,
Sendhelp
If your husbands care is now too much for you, please look into having him placed in the appropriate facility. And if money is an issue you can apply for Medicaid.
You matter too in this equation so please take good care of yourself.
Big hugs to you and husband.. 💐
Feel better soon.
If you have any questions, this is a good place to ask them.
If you give us more details, we can give you helpful advice about how to transition your husband into a facility, even if finances are a problem.
How old is your husband and why is he bedbound? Is it a physical illness or a cognitive one, or both?
How old are you?
What state do you live in?
Are you his PoA?
Are you living in a house or an apartment or other?
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