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I agree with Hothouseflower There are times as I sift through the hoard my mom left me to deal with that I feel a little sad - finding old pictures from happier times, and letters from lifelong friend she had. But overall I'm able to do it (with the 30 yard dumpster) pretty mechanically because mom just let things pile up decade after decade, knowing it would all become my problem. And she never had any kind of plan, (despite having some means), for her aging other than to have me be her nurse, chore girl, house manager, complaint department and much more.
I'm running on anger and resentment. Someday in the future the sadness will probably catch up with me. But not now. It's a continuation of the misery.
I think it's normal to feel this way. I know many who have. We're not there yet, have a 92 year old father who still lives independently in a 55+ community. This topic worries him though. He gets upset about nobody wanting Mom's old clothes, purses, jewelry (mostly costume)....etc. She passed a couple of years back. He asked repeatedly who wants the upright piano (nobody), who will take her Hummel figurines...etc. We tell him we'll sort it out down the road....meaning when he passes someday.
The reality is...nobody in the family wants any of it. We'll keep some photos, maybe a moment here and there. But thereafter, all of the contents will go to Goodwill and the rest to a dumpster. The home itself is a 55+ neighborhood where my spouse and I have no interest in living. It's very important for him to "leave us the house"....but, his assets are nearly gone, and the house is worth 400K...and so it may very well need to be sold for any care he needs down the road. Honestly, I feel more stressed about him being stressed....than any guilt at all. We have no attachment to any of the stuff or the house.
I do not and did not feel guilt at all. I am the guardian for my father and when I was downsizing him, I contacted my siblings and asked if there was anything they wanted from the house. They picked what they wanted, I shipped it to them and the rest donated to Alzheimer's Association, Goodwill, AmVets and dumpster. I have seen too many families being destroyed when dividing things from family. I told my siblings, take whatever you want, I want nothing, if there is a conflict with 2 or more sibling wanting the same item, resolve among themselves, leave me out. Gave them 2 weeks to iron things out. Asked them to send the list to all siblings so they were all aware of what each other wanted, for full transparency. Anything over $50 shipping cost would be arranged and paid by them. Made them sign the agreement, clearly stating timelines and expectancies. Full disclosure. No, did not work as planned but I kept my promise and my schedule. There were fights and they kept trying to pull me in, but I did not budge. sent notice that time was running out, resolve it or it will be donated. Yes it turned out I was the "bad person" and only 1 out of 5 siblings still talking to me, I am fine with that, but I got it done. No guilt, No regrets.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I'm running on anger and resentment. Someday in the future the sadness will probably catch up with me. But not now. It's a continuation of the misery.
The reality is...nobody in the family wants any of it. We'll keep some photos, maybe a moment here and there. But thereafter, all of the contents will go to Goodwill and the rest to a dumpster. The home itself is a 55+ neighborhood where my spouse and I have no interest in living. It's very important for him to "leave us the house"....but, his assets are nearly gone, and the house is worth 400K...and so it may very well need to be sold for any care he needs down the road.
Honestly, I feel more stressed about him being stressed....than any guilt at all. We have no attachment to any of the stuff or the house.
No guilt, No regrets.