My mom is in early stage Alzehemier's. (Thanks to a med study the progression has slowed remarkably, but we know it will still progress).
Though competent she repeats herself - a lot and sometimes the same story a dozen times in as many minutes. Other days she is much better - you just have to be prepared for how she is doing on a given day.
My vent - her siblings and other family members are unable to be patient with her and therefore don't call her for visits like they used to. Her sisters don't want to take her on a yearly trip this year, etc. I understand visiting can be tough - but they all call ME essentially asking for dispensation to not visit. Never have I made a peep about this, but now it is getting more frequent and I don't like it. I'm sad for my mom, but this having to take care of others and assuage their guilt is lousy. If I shut them down it will likely casue the very rify they seek to avoid.
That's it. That is my vent.
I am so sorry that you are in this situation.
Life has some very tough times and anyone without their own spine doesn't get to use mine to justify their poor behavior.
Tell them straight out that they can visit or not, it is entirely up to them to show what kind of friend or family they really are. But asking you to assuage their guilt is not happening anymore.
What jerks!
My mom asks why she has all these grandchildren & no one visits. I’ve reached out to the grandkids multiple times to ask them to visit & they don’t. I can’t make them visit!
It just sucks for my Mom that she was there for them growing up & they are not here for her now when she needs them.
It frustrates me too because she’s right, they should be visiting her, even if it was just an hour a week or every other week. They just don’t make the time for her. It’s sad how we make time for everyone & everything else, but not for the person/people that were our biggest fans growing up!💔😢
It’s absolutely ok for you to feel what you do. Take time to get through your feelings!
Sending hugs and good wishes your way today!