She wants to walk home and we have to physically hold her back. She is so determined to walk away. Anything in a patch form that works since she won't eat or drink during these periods. already on anti-depressant meds. can't redirect her when she does this. its not b/c of UTI. she forgets the episode the next day.
celeste, work with your MD to find the right meds.
However specific advice is beyond the scope of members of this forum unless there is a Neuoro/Psychyatrist specializing in dementia lurking under a stone in our midst.
The list of medications is long and convoluted some of which are specifically designed for the possible control of the agitation that can accompany and some that are what are called "off label indications" meaning that they are approved for one use but have been found to be helpful for other conditions. Also something that worked for one may have the opposite effect on another. It is a big game of trial and error and not a job for the average MD. Training and specialization is the clue so you have to educate yourself and take advice from the Drs you know to find the right help.
I think all of these meds are trial and error. Are you working with a geriatric specialist? That's where I'd go. I don't want a guy trying to solve difficult problems who doesn't specialize in seniors and dementia. That's a whole separate ballgame.
I wish you very good luck.