I had to make the terribly sad, but NOT difficult decision to place my 91 year old precious mom in a long term care facility.
After 7 falls, two compression vertebrae fractures (one needing surgery), a rib fracture, and much organ bruising all within 1 year (the most recent 2 weeks ago) she is now in need of 24/7 care and assistance. She is also in heart failure, so Hospice will be the next step fairly soon I think.
I was fortunate to find a clean and cozy facility near me. Visiting often will be easy.
She of course is sad, scared, and quite angry with me and my brother right now. It hurts us but that’s will pass. We love her to pieces anyway. She’s our mom ❤️.
She's likely to acclimate in short order, so be sure to visit often and bring her small gifts and snacks when you go. It's nice you'll get to be her daughter and advocate now, instead of the stressed out and worried caregiver. Best of luck and peace to you!
She will adjust as will you. I would recommend bringing hospice on board as soon as she gets settled in her new home, as many wait too long to seek their services. The nice thing with having hospice involved when someone is in a facility is that you will extra sets of eyes on her and they will respond accordingly. Remember too that all supplies, equipment, and medications from hospice are all covered 100% under moms Medicare. They will also have a nurse come check on her once a week, aides to come bathe her at least twice a week, and they have volunteers that can come visit with your mom, along with a social worker and chaplain for you too.
I pray everything goes smoothly with placing her in her new home. God bless you.
My father was diagnosed with congestive heart failure in October 2015. He passed on his 97th birthday February 2016