And even though she has hearing aids, she is practically deaf. It's so very difficult. My dad, who is her primary caregiver, doesn't know if anything is hurting her or if she is sick. Yesterday she refused to eat anything all day so my dad gave her some ice cream before going to bed, which she threw up. This morning, she wouldn't eat breakfast so something is obviously wrong. She can't tell him and when he tries to talk loud enough for her to hear anything, she gets mad. She is at the point where she can't carry on a conversation. Many times, words just come out as sounds, but don't make any sense. She only weighs 90 pounds fully clothed and has terrible equilibrium. In other words, it's just a mess. My parents live on their own and have a caregiver come in for several hours a week. I live 6 hours away. It's hard.
She was turned down within the actual six months, then accepted a week before she actually passed on. This is difficult to assess for the nurse/doctor sometimes.
Sending hugs and empathize with the situation. Take care and blessings to you.
You don't say how old your mom and dad are, but I can assure you that a couple of hours a week of professional care giving isn't enough.
Have you discussed long term care with your dad?