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After DH had 2 massive heart attacks, he did NOT want me at his FU appts. His dr requested that I be there.
I sat slightly behind DH so he had to turn around to look at me. The dr said if he made some outrageous and untrue comment, I was to make some kind of signal to him. (OF course this wasn't the drs first rodeo!!).
Dh would state that he was exercising (lie) and I'd raise my eyebrows to the sky. Was he getting UP to eat and sitting at the table or demanding meals in bed? (Again, eyebrows up!) Basically he lied about all his behaviors and rehabs. He was initially a really pretty good patient, but is usually the case, he long since quit trying to behave and eats and drinks (soda) and sleeps a LOT.
I cannot care enough for both of us. He has grand ideas for retirement, but I know he will probably sleep until he dies. Nothing and no one can tell him what to do.
DH's mother is an amazing Narc. I think he has learned some of his behavior from her. Until he wants to change, he won't.
Also--I can send notes to his doctors on MyCHart and I do, sometimes. They are grateful for the insight because DH lies about everything. You have to have the 'right' to send notes visa My Chart, so that needs to be set up.
Oh, I'm so sorry. Yes, I use MyChart all the time. I will try sitting behind and sending signals next time. The lying is one of the hardest parts. Many thanks.
Thank you. I was afraid of that. She needs medication but mention the word and she attacks and turns you into her enemy. I take her to her MD and she swears she's fine, no problems. I'm trying to appeal to her vanity to get her to warm up to mental health care but it's not working. Involuntary care will be really ugly.
if she’s literally right in the middle of a psychosis, then it’s difficult/impossible to reason with the person.
it’s probably not the 1st time? you’ve witnessed it before?
psychosis does eventually go away, but sometimes it takes weeks/months (can be for example 6 months for a psychosis to die down).
a person who has psychoses normally has a pattern: ...the cycle lasts roughly the same amount of time ...the person does/says similar things during every cycle
the only way to stop the psychosis in its tracks, is forced medicine. even then, it takes some days for the psychosis to die down.
Aside from getting her involuntarily admitted to a psychiatric unit (which you can do if she becomes a danger to herself or others), there is really no way to force her to do either of these things.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I sat slightly behind DH so he had to turn around to look at me. The dr said if he made some outrageous and untrue comment, I was to make some kind of signal to him. (OF course this wasn't the drs first rodeo!!).
Dh would state that he was exercising (lie) and I'd raise my eyebrows to the sky. Was he getting UP to eat and sitting at the table or demanding meals in bed? (Again, eyebrows up!) Basically he lied about all his behaviors and rehabs. He was initially a really pretty good patient, but is usually the case, he long since quit trying to behave and eats and drinks (soda) and sleeps a LOT.
I cannot care enough for both of us. He has grand ideas for retirement, but I know he will probably sleep until he dies. Nothing and no one can tell him what to do.
DH's mother is an amazing Narc. I think he has learned some of his behavior from her. Until he wants to change, he won't.
Also--I can send notes to his doctors on MyCHart and I do, sometimes. They are grateful for the insight because DH lies about everything. You have to have the 'right' to send notes visa My Chart, so that needs to be set up.
if she’s literally right in the middle of a psychosis, then it’s difficult/impossible to reason with the person.
it’s probably not the 1st time? you’ve witnessed it before?
psychosis does eventually go away, but sometimes it takes weeks/months (can be for example 6 months for a psychosis to die down).
a person who has psychoses normally has a pattern:
...the cycle lasts roughly the same amount of time
...the person does/says similar things during every cycle
the only way to stop the psychosis in its tracks, is forced medicine. even then, it takes some days for the psychosis to die down.
sending lots of courage to you and your mother!!