Mom has moderate dementia. What do I say to convince her that she needs to accept the staff's help? She gets upset and curses at them; insisting why don't 'you people leave me alone'. I have much heartache trying to visit her; she just is not the same person my Mom was. She knows who I am but her short term memory is so quickly going. She need more help and we are paying for a higher level of care, but staff is 'unable' to force her compliance (I understand this issue).The staff seem to be too regimented. Example if Mom has an accident and it happens to NOT be laundry day; or house-keeping day- her needs are not met. Mom is not ready for nursing home care.; and I fear that would make matters worse. Help with your suggestions??
Any care facility would immediately help with cleanup of accidents whether it was the right "day" or not ... but they would have to know about the accident. I suppose that is the problem. Mom doesn't want them to know. Sigh.
Does/Can the higher level of care include more frequent room-checks, to detect the accidents sooner?
It may be the Mom will be ready for the closer supervision of a nursing home sooner than you think. Keep an open mind on that.
I really have no advice. I just want to give you a hug and my well wishes. Let's hope this denial stage passes quickly.
BTW, how long has she been in ALF? Has she had time to settle in?