Mom has Dementia and Parkinson's. She is bed ridden and sleeps a lot and eats very little.
She no longer can hold her urine or defecate on her own. She also keeps her eyes closed most of the time now.
Her hands do get fidgety at times.
Today she told me I better get prepared. I asked her for what?
She said the cemetery... I asked her what do you mean?
Mom said you know where you put people when they die.
I asked her why are you telling me this.
She said because you need to prepare yourself..... does she know or think she is dying?
I hope that's not the case. It really hurt hearing her telling me this...
Take care.
In my 20 plus year career working with seniors I have seen this often. I will never forget the first lady I cared for that this happened to, I can still see her plain as day. She had diabetes and heart issues but was not on hospice and was not in crisis.. She went to the hairdresser that day and told her to do her hair (which she still dyed red) extra well because she was "going to see Jesus". That night we sent her to the hospital and she passed. I am not a really religious or spiritual person, but I do believe some people know. Take it as the blessing it can be.
It's going to be ok. Remember, when she leaves the body, she will be free of its limitations and suffering.
And grieving while she is still here is ok, too. It's hard to let go of someone who has known you your whole life...your attachment is understandable...
Love to your heart...
He did reach out and he was killed in a freak accident 1 week later.
That made a believer out of me.
Take this time to say goodbye and thank you and anything else you feel needs said. It is a blessing to be able to get your affairs in order.
I am sorry you are loosing your mom, focus on the beauty she brought to your life and the fact that she is no longer suffering. Hugs!