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My mother is 90 and has been living in an Assisted Living for two years. I started to notice she is not bathing and has issues cleaning herself after using toilet. She is refusing help. Need advice.
Your mom needs a higher level of care than what is offered in Assisted Living. I am surprised they have not discussed this with you. You can either look into moving her to Memory Care where she will get more attention and the care that is needed for someone with dementia or you can have someone come in and shower her 1 or 2 times a week. That will not take care of her daily hygiene though. She needs help with toileting, personal care, showering. (Mom pays for the additional caregiver)
My mother lives in a senior living and she started to steal anything she can get her hands on. Her fridge is packed with fruits and muffins that she does not eat. Also I find in her room items that don’t belong to her.
Since you categorized that post under "Alzheimer's and dementia" you are obviously aware your mother is suffering from one of the dementias. Which is why she's stealing and refusing to bathe etc. She belongs in Memory Care Assisted Living now where there's more care given to the elders and a higher ratio of caregivers to residents. She'll need calming meds from her doctor if she's too anxiety ridden to accept help.
Your mothers assisted living facility should offer assistance with bathing as part of their services. and most of the aides should be more than familiar with dealing with folks who don't want to bathe. And for the in-between showers you can try using the extra large body wipes on her and the waterless shampoo and conditioner caps for her hair. Both work really well and can be ordered on either Walmart.com or Amazon.
Not wanting to bathe can be one of the tell tale signs of dementia as well, so even though you don't mention that, it's very possible that your mother may have some, and will eventually require more help than assisted living can provide.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I am surprised they have not discussed this with you.
You can either look into moving her to Memory Care where she will get more attention and the care that is needed for someone with dementia or you can have someone come in and shower her 1 or 2 times a week. That will not take care of her daily hygiene though.
She needs help with toileting, personal care, showering. (Mom pays for the additional caregiver)
My mother lives in a senior living and she started to steal anything she can get her hands on. Her fridge is packed with fruits and muffins that she does not eat. Also I find in her room items that don’t belong to her.
Since you categorized that post under "Alzheimer's and dementia" you are obviously aware your mother is suffering from one of the dementias. Which is why she's stealing and refusing to bathe etc. She belongs in Memory Care Assisted Living now where there's more care given to the elders and a higher ratio of caregivers to residents. She'll need calming meds from her doctor if she's too anxiety ridden to accept help.
Good luck to you.
And for the in-between showers you can try using the extra large body wipes on her and the waterless shampoo and conditioner caps for her hair. Both work really well and can be ordered on either Walmart.com or Amazon.
Not wanting to bathe can be one of the tell tale signs of dementia as well, so even though you don't mention that, it's very possible that your mother may have some, and will eventually require more help than assisted living can provide.