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Hi there, shoulder surgery is painful post op. Make sure they pre-medicate her one hour before therapy. It'll make a huge difference in her ability to participate.
Offer the pain meds if only Tylenol or Norco but something to relief the pain. It's got to hurt.
Watch for constipation too. Offer Stool softener, drink plenty of fluids. Push fluids on her to excrete the anesthesia. She will be extra sleepy for days due to the anesthesia.
She definitely needs to start walking and moving that arm, so don't baby her. Pace her activity providing rest when she looks or says she is tired.
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Which province are you in? - then I might be able to help as I have contacts in NB, SK, ON, QB, AB, BC who know the ropes to help you - some in medical field & some as front line helpers like you & me

So glad your mom is where she needs to be now - she will start to heal after her 'retreat into her shell' which that broken shoulder initiated which a normal response to a trauma like she had -

I know this was hard on you & bro but now you are in the system you will so much more help now - you were right that there was something untoward with your mom - our instinks are the subliminal alerting of a deeper awareness & you listened to yours .... GOOD ON YOU for going with your gut instink that something was wrong & out of kilter with her & got her the help she so badly needed - remember "d' nile" isn't just a river in Egypt

Just remember, they will bombard you with info - you & bro need to really look at this as it can be overwhelming - do either of you have a 'strength' in anything? ... like is either of you in financial or medical profession - divide this up between you going to where strengths are shown or just pick a part each so that you can wade through this

NEVER SIGN ANYTHING IN A HURRY - you have to look at everything well because you don't know where the loopholes are - if you are ONTARIO I have some experience as both mom & dad are in nursing homes here, so I will try to help where I can - if another province maybe my family contacts will know -

Keep letting us know how she is doing - you & bro are doing a good job taking care of her but at sometime you both may need to step up again keep her safe - hugs M
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Just updating, my mom's still in the hospital. She's still very afraid to stand up. There's been some degree of progress though because they've gotten her into a wheelchair several times. She's not eating lately though, and hardly drinking, so the Dr has put her on intravenous to hydrate her. I hope she starts eating soon because I don't know why she'd just prefer to sleep when her meal comes. She is very tired though most of the time. The best thing is that her broken shoulder pain is well controlled.
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As your mom is not drinking, I hope they have her on an IV drip? She can still swallow, right? Oh yes, I see that she's IV'ed.
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Another update, the nurse told me that my mom refused to get up when physio came this morning and because she'd had trouble sleeping last night, she was very groggy so she wouldn't have been alert enough to do anything today. The nurses did get her into a wheelchair for a couple of hours at dinner, but she didn't eat anything. She's got another Urinary tract infection and is on antibiotics, (2nd UTI in about 2 1/2 weeks) Could that be why she's not eating? She can still swallow normally.
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If you needed quite potent pain relief after surgery, and you had a persistent UTI, and you were taking antibiotics, and you'd been much less mobile than usual for a few weeks, and you were 94 and very tired... how much of an appetite do you think you'd have?

If it's practical, you could try taking her some edible treats that you know she really loves. Ice cream, or a really good milkshake (use a cold bag or a Thermos flask), or just anything that she always ordered first at a restaurant, but in tiny amounts just to tempt her. It might be possible to stimulate her appetite and get her restarted on eating that way, and be good for her morale.
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Not, are you talking to your mom's doctors about her condition and her prognosis? Do you say she can still swallow because they've done a swallow test?

We're not in the room with her, looking at her chart and we're not medical professionals. UTIS can cause a variety of symptoms, some of them psychiatric, in elders.

I know this is a sad and hard time for you; you love your mom and I'm happy that you were able to get her to agree to the hospital and that she's not in pain.

You and your brother need to have a conversation with mom's doctors about what is going on.
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UTIs can cause stomach pain and nausea

Add narcotic painkillers and it's no wonder your mom is lethargic

Her body is working hard to fight infection

As barb suggests - talk directly with doctor

Her shoulder will freeze if she doesn't do her physical therapy but have you been told her prognosis ?
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Your mother IS going to be lethargic for a number of reasons:
#1 Age
#2 Strong pain meds
#3 "The body in non motion"
#4 Loss of pharyngeal reflex
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