My mom has been out of her house for a year. She is very confused and can't make a decision. I asked her permission to start packing up her stuff and possibly move towards selling house. She still thinks she will be home someday. She can’t come home to live for she is safer where she is. We been having this same conversation for a long time. I don’t want to feel guilty and just start packing up stuff anyways. I need peace and guidance on what to do. I’m very saddened by it all the house has been part of the family for over 50 years. I understand why she doesn’t want to let it go. But I feel its time because the house sits empty with no one living there.
1 - Empty home of valuables and store in secure location - no matter whatever else you do. These items are what would be considered part of your mother's estate when she dies.
2 - Rent out home either empty or furnished. If renting as furnished, do not expect that others will "cherish" the furnishings like your mom does. Maybe a family member needs a place to stay and this could work for your mother and for them.
3 - Divide up furnishings according to whomever mom what things to go to... or as others want items.
4 - Sell furnishings on Craiglist or eBay.
5 - Sell home to a company that does estimates and quick sales or through a realtor.
6 - Wait. Your state may require the court to appoint a legal guardian to deal with your mother's assets. Make sure the home is in good repair and that it is cleaned regularly.