My niece has six boys to raise and I consider my older brother and her dad a seventh child. He refuses to give her any copies of arrangements he has made for his ultimate death. Everything is locked away somewhere and my niece has no access. He has lost the key to his safety deposit box, keeps his dead wife on his bank account. I could go on and on. I tell my niece this is unfair and she needs to be firm. This man could drop dead tomorrow and my niece would have no idea what to do. He says he has a trust, but where it is nobody knows. My brother is not stupid, he’s a doctor. Very thoughtless. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
She thinks that "I" will somehow get into her financials and rob her prior to her death.
Every time Dh goes to see her, if he has to use the house key she hides in the garage, she goes out and re-hides it, b/c she is so afraid that I will come to her house and break in.
DH has quit trying to figure it out. I imagine if she ever dies, he'll deal with it.
She's not super smart, but she sure is eccentric.
Maybe as a sibling you could ask him why. The whole purpose of having your ducks in a row is to make things easier for the people left behind. His wishes can't be carried out if no one has access to them.
The most intelligent people are also the most eccentric I have found. Some have no commonsense.