How can I stop 16 family members from visiting my 90 year old parent? I’ve explained that he is not able to tolerate noise and a lot of talking bc he lives alone. None of them understand and think it will be a great family reunion. Dad has said I can’t have that many in my house at once. They just don’t get it and say they are going and staying with him no matter what. What can I do?
My mother did not have the heart to say anything to her but I did. How thoughtless and insulting some relatives can be. I had to tell her not to come to my home and do not bring her animals.
My parent has ALZ. So it didnt matter to me what anybody said. Turns out 1 person came un-announced then 2 months later another family member came un-announced. I was nice and let them come in but that was it. No one went into the bedroom. Or past a few feet from the door.
Before Covid we were only allowing 2 people at a time and only 5 or 10 minutes. But not anymore.
I would suggest not to let anyone come visit at all. Find another way. There is Zoom, GoogleMeet, WhatsApp or Google Duo.
Stand your ground and keep caring for your parent.
The best advice I’ve seen on this thread is to not be home. But DON’T warn them in advance.
The next time you hear from RL, reiterate the extreme inconvenience and health risks of their visit but get specifics on when they plan to arrive. Simultaneously, make plans to stay with a trusted friend or at a hotel. Then, on the visit date, don’t answer your phone. Leave a note on the door: “No one’s home. We told you not to come.”
He said no. That's that.
Does he want to see them? If so is there some sort of alternative way to do this? How old are these children, because young children really can't control their noise level. Maybe only the over 12 or 13 yo's should be allowed to visit, if they even want to?
What does DAD want?
Have any of our suggestions helped? Did Dad receive these visitors?
With the new strain of virus going around, no one should be visiting anyone unless all are vaccinated. My state is back to masks. Children will be wearing them in schools as will the teachers. Businesses are putting signs back up that masks are needed to enter.