My sibling has took poa on my mom whom has dementia, my mom as well has a aide and a nurse plus her live in boyfriend . My sister and moms bf keep info from rest of siblings then goes around trashing siblings for not helping .. the bf has totally ruined us from visiting our mom since he moved in our father sd house and sibling allows him to take money and checks, my dads 401k. Mom gets sedated with her nerve meds, I feel like the bf takes off and leaves her alone. She has had a broken hip, now she has caught on fire from her o2 tank while he so called ran to buy cig. She is always asleep when he decides to run the street. She has gave him her car he claims but how can she when she doesn't recall? And he took het to check cashing place to sign her name for him to cash her checks in which he controls.
While the POA is handling everything for the benefit of that individual..they have no right to disclose that to anyone...including family.
If you are fairly sure there is finically abuse...report her to APS. But, if you are wrong...expect that to be the event that truly rips any remainder of family ties apart. Most POAs have a hard enough time...they don't appreciate interference.
Decide if you want to do this. If you believe that you must for the sake of your Dad....proceed.