Please, “Take her to her doctor”, need not apply. Been there, done that.
Mind altering drugs??? She is already on 10/day.
Heart, blood clot, mood elevator, fluid, more heart, GERD, aspirin, Vitamins, ........
The nonstop questions of who is my boyfriend who comes in the middle of the night....whistles at me, where does he work......
It's no longer funny....it is so monotonous and annoying.
Getting up and rummaging through her drawers for stashed money.....which is not there.
My son gave it to her????
Never happened.
You cannot get through to them.
This is REAL dementia. And it is tough, exhausting.....
You don't pose a specific question, but I want you to know that you are not alone. Many in this forum are experiencing what you are experiencing, and many have completed that caregiver journey and can certainly relate.
I wish you peace.
Well there are times when fiblets are called for when trying to keep them from harm - because the DR says it has to be this way.
The one that got me was when dad was upset because mom was out spending all their money and going out with her boyfriends. I was usually good with giving him answers about his delusional money issues, but not so good with mom answers, Mom recently told me that her answer to him was that he knew he was the only boyfriend she had. Yikes.
I was very lucky in that my parents moved to a CCC and I didn't have the day to day stress living with me. And I so sympathize with those of you who took your LOs into your homes or moved in with them to care for them.
When saying my prayers at bedtime I always try to remember all the caregivers and their LOs. Peace to all of you throughout the world.
Now she's on hospice care. She has congestive heart failure, dementia, gout (that's a new one), an elevated heart rate, she survived Covid in January, and is now having after-effects that cause random bruising and blistering that leads to wounds.
Because of the strange bleeding/bruising stuff that's suddenly cropped up post-Covid, the hospice nurse has taken her off her blood thinner, her blood pressure medication -- everything -- except a diuretic and thyroid. Weirdly, her blood pressure is perfectly normal, her heart rate is in the normal range for the first time in months, and she's doing better than she has in six months.
Consider taking your mom off some of her medications with doctor's supervision, of course. Ask her doctor what they're really doing for her, and are they helping or hurting? I remember years ago my mother telling me of a friend whose wife took him off everything because it was just too much, and he improved greatly. She was intending to let him go peacefully, but he got better, so my mother isn't a unique case where taking fewer meds seems to be a better choice.
I think too many medications are just poisoning our loved ones' bodies rather than making them work better. This could be the case with your mom and might be worth a conversation with the doctor. I know you didn't want to hear that, but I'm not advocating more meds, I'm advocating fewer.