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I've never heard this term but it fits. I've seen it. My friend actually recorded the behaviors that weren't being believed. The doctors were quite shocked. I have seen some of it with my dad; I think its more common in the early stages. I can't tell you how many hours I racked my brain trying to figure out if I was going nuts or if he were that good an actor or liar. It's very frustrating!
I've also seen this in my husband. Staff thinks he's smart and funny. When I show up he's angry at me because I won't take him home. I've tried several times. He refuses to shower or even get out of bed. He is a different person with me. Dementia is many things, but behavior can vary greatly based on the relationship to the people involved.
I noticed that with my dad too. He treats me completely different than others. When we have company he acts like he knows what’s going on but when they leave we’re right back to requiring help with everything.
I'm baffled when people tell me how cute and charming my mother is to them. She's anything but sweet in a family-only setting. Out come the hateful remarks, verbal attacks, pinching, slapping, paranoia, and rages. During a recent hospitalization all I heard from the nursing staff is what a sweetheart my mom was. I know it's the dementia, but it infuriates me that she can be so selective. Why can't she be sweet with us?
Yes they can fool people One they never tell the truth to their doctors etc.My father in law never told the VA he drank.He is an alcoholic,so they could not figure out why he had certain ailments.Though now it's starting to show.
This is not really an answer to anything, but I want to say a great big "Bless You" to all who have posted here. My mother-in-law has been diagnosed with dementia, still living at home with just her husband (who also seems to be very forgetful). We live 40+ miles away, so don't see her as often as we should. My brother-in-law lives just a few miles away, but his health is bad too, so he can't help much. Anyway, just reading your stories has lightened my heart, and I know with God's help we can manage to do what needs to be done...perhaps moving them (if they will) to our property.
OMG! I am so happy to hear that my situation is not isolated. I share so many of your stories and sometimes feel that I am losing my mind when my patient's ocar winning performances begin. Her multiple personalities make me think that the short term memory loss is really attributed to old age and her condition is truly a personality disorder that has been undiagnosed for years.
Just remember to take care of you. "Reality and fantasy don't exist in the same space."
My step daughter just recently offered to take her dad to a family friend's baby's christening two hours away. It would be her mom, brother and her. I loved the idea, as I truly adore these people but was longing for the hours to just rest. Let me say that my husband's first wife has been so supportive, and understanding. So...they came to pick up dad. I had showered and shaved him-haircut and nice clothes-which took the entire morning. I was looking pretty grubby, but got a quick shower. The only downside was that I was expected to dog sit for their three furry friends. I knew this ahead of time, as this is always the case when they have taken him to events on three previous occasions. Not a huge deal, but boy, I was so looking forward to just quiet time. But here's the rub: as soon as they return, all I hear about is how "social, how conversational he was-how he did not use his transporter chair once, only went to the bathroom once in 9'hours"! He was great! Arghhhhhh! They leave and within 30 minutes he can't remember where they had gone or how he got there or who went with him. He then called his son at home to tell him that he'd seen the friend's new baby and asked why he didn't go. And so once again I am feeling like he has managed to "showtime".
I learned early on not to ever scold for incontinence, though I have truly worked at encouraging him to use the commode next to the bed. He is pretty good but I have to keep a couple of disposable underwear on the night table and a pad on the floor. It amazes me that he can manage to change and that sometimes includes his tee shirt, yet he does not know where he is. Everything is so crazy, especially at night. I keep trying to find less expensive products, as he sometimes has 5-6 changes a day.
Oh wow, thank you so much, everyone, I was beginning to think I was crazy. It’s so wonderful to hear others are having the same experience. I love this forum already.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Just remember to take care of you. "Reality and fantasy don't exist in the same space."