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Caregivers have a right to a life apart from their caregiving, and individual family members have a right to a life apart from their families. You are not moving to the other side of the world. you are taking a couple of days to replenish your own spirit and take care of yourself and attend to your friendships. Chances are very good that things will be just fine with your sister those few days. Go and have a great time.
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Aww. Think of it this way: whether you go on an outing or not, your sister is not going to feel any better or be happier whatever you do. You can take a week and go on a cruise. You can use that week to sit next to here 12 hours a day for a week. She will be the same. So go and live your life, and have some fun - before it is too late for YOU. You have done as much as you can and she is receiving more, better care now. It's always sad when life changes. I wanted to stay a child and live with my grandmother, but I had to grow up. My friend wanted to stay married and live in a house in the suburbs, but she got divorced and the house was sold. Things change. If your sister is being cared for, that's a good thing, as good as it gets.....And please: cut the visits down to 2 times a week. You should not be EVERYTHING in your sister's life. Time to live for you, because time is running out, my dear.
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You weren't medically equipped to take care of your sister is the best response.
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You feel annoyed and then you feel guilty... heck, I feel annoyed for you! Think of your sister in that place while you're out having fun - tchah!

As we say this side of the pond, that is bollocks. Think instead that you cared devotedly for her for as long as it was possible, that you continue to contribute enormously to her care and wellbeing, that you visit your sister/chief emotional blackmailer *every single day*...

You do plenty. You do more than enough. For that brief period, don't give her a thought. Take the time out and enjoy
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I do want to say one more time, hon - you better realize you don't have all that much time left yourself. I lost YEARS of my life, and health, caregiving . I may never recover. Please, do something good for yourself. Otherwise, you could have a health crisis and find yourself in a bed NEXT to your sister! God bless.
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