I was talking with a friend I use to be super close with about my mom's sudden decline and need to find an AL. She responded with how she would never put her mom in an Al and take care of her. She went on about how much she loves her mom etc… I was taken aback by this. She knows I’m extremely close with my own mother and adore her. I’m married, have a grown child and live an hr away from my mom. This friend has never been married, no children and lives 10 mts from her mom.
How would you respond to this?
Well one thing I wouldn't do is abandon this friendship. Friendships are ever- changing. Sometimes people say stupid, insensitive things especially people who are very comfortable with each other. It's ok to look at things from a different angle. You still get to do what works for you.
She still plays hymns, having been church pianist for over thirty five years. She relinquished her driver’s license when we moved near our daughter’s family in 2014.
Buck up. With help this can be managed. My feeling about that changes from time to time but realistically we are doing well.