Has anyone had experience keeping a parent in their home for as long as possible, then having to sell her home to provide money to care for her?
My mom had a stroke 2 years ago. When she came home from the hospital, I hired a full-time, live-in caregiver for her. Mom lives in CA in her home. My family and I live in TX. My plan was to keep her living comfortably in her home for as long as possible.
In about a year, I will have drawn down her savings and will need to sell her home. I've been looking at memory care facilities, but worry about the day I have to tell her she will need to move.
My mom has stroke-related dementia and gets very emotional when she hears news that makes her sad. This is the hard part for me. She cries and cries, even when I make a small change to a visit timeline, for example.
Has anyone on this forum had to move a family member to pay for care? Does anyone have advice?
I do better when I remind myself that I’m really suffering from her discomfort more than she is, and also that I’m doing EVERYTHING POSSIBLE to do everything I can on her behalf to make her safe and comfortable.
Selling my mother’s house was the saddest thing I ever had to be responsible for, but her 5 1/2 years in a beautiful local residence were wonderful for her.
Be at peace that you are doing what must be done because of your love for her.
Perhaps a geripsych consult would be something to consider.
Your comment gave me the idea that maybe I should get in touch with her elder psychiatrist. He's been very helpful so far and might have some ideas.