I am 32 years old living in Florida with no brothers or sisters and travel several times a year for work. My father is deceased and my 75 year old mother lives at home alone in P.R. She grew up in P.R. and her family lives a couple of hours away, relatives visit her here and there on holidays etc. She cant really drive around the island to see them. She suffers from an unknown bronchial/respiratory condition; Out of nowhere her body becomes sore, feverish and she cant stop coughing while bleeding from her mouth. She has coughed blood from an earlier stage in her life but i believe that now its more serious. Just a couple of months ago a next door neighbor did not hear from her for a couple of days and found her so sick and feverish she was almost unable to move. He rushed her to the hospital and she was hospitalized for about a week and a half. He told me I have to do something. Should I sell the house in Puerto Rico and move her into my house in Florida? I have a roommate now and its really the only way I can afford my mortgage.
So sorry to hear of your mother's mysterious illness. Your question about moving her near you is a challenging one.
I am sure that you are worried about her health and safety. That was enough motivation for me to have my mom move near me awhile ago. Even though she had relatives in the area, they were older, too, or not interested in helping her. I could see that she was deteriorating fast.
I would highly recommend sending her to a specialist who can properly diagnose her condition. It is not normal to bleed from the mouth for any reason.
Do you have Power of Attorney for both her finances and especially for her medical care? These are important documents to have if she wants you to make decisions for her should she become incapacitated.
You said that you travel a lot for your work. If your mother can afford it, she should consider either senior apartments where she can live independently or assisted living centers that can offer some assistance. If you are considering moving her into your home, please be sure that you are prepared to become a full time caregiver. Read the other posts in this forum and decide if this is something you are willing to do.
Good luck and check back here for further advice.
Lilli