Let's start with I have MS. Not fully blown MS but MS none the less. My boyfriend is in a wheelchair and can not do a lot by himself, needless to say I am in charge of everything. Cooking, Cleaning, shopping, finances, fixing stuff around the house, plus taking care of him, bathing, dressing, sometimes feeding, Medications (mine and his) plus we have 2 dogs, 3 cats, and a fish tank. How do I deal with being solely responsible for everything?
Everyone here will scream at this but as a non pet lover, I would reduce that care and responsibility quickly. With all you have on your plate, see if you can't find another home for some of the pets. Just shopping for pet food can be a full time job! Which brings me to shopping from home --- groceries, non perishables etc.
When friends ask if there is anything they can do, let them know ---- have something to ask them. You need HELP