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Who is telling SD is abusing Mom. If its Mom, you really can't believe her. Has the facility complained about SD? If so, I would think they have the authority to ban him from the home. If he physically abuses her, they should call the police and ban him. They should be protecting her.
Your post to us is confusing Sarawill. You say your are caring for a mother WHO IS 43 years old, and indicate she has age related decline. I, like Lea, am assuming that it is YOU who is 43. Is that correct?
Your profile indicates you mother is in a care facility. Have you discussed your observations with the care facility?
Have you and your step father not got along during the time he has been in relationship with your Mom? That is to say is this a troubled relationship between the two of you in general? Has your mother and stepfather's relationship changed over time, or has it always had a tendency to bickering?
Your options are, if you observe abuse, to keep a diary and to report each incident to the administration of the facility where your parent is located. You should also reach out to APS and let them know in a concrete manner just EXACTLY what you are seeing. That is to say you will need to describe each incident completely, not to just "label" it as abuse.
I hope you will give us some concrete examples of what you are seeing. I am so sorry for this. You must be very worried. But do know that your real help is close to home. We on the Forum are unable to intervene in what you are experiencing. I wish you good luck, hope you will elaborate for us what you're experiencing, and hope you will report to the authorities.
If your step father is verbally and or physically abusing your mother and you are witness to this you call 911. IMMEDIATELY. If your step father is physically and or verbally abusing your mother in the facility and the staff is witness to this they are MANDATED reporters of abuse and they by law HAVE to report the abuse. If you have POA YOU can restrict visitation. If you do not have POA I suggest that you file for Guardianship so that you can protect your mother from her abuser.
I am caring for my mother Sara , who is 43 years old, living in a nursing home with age-related decline, alzheimer's / dementia, and incontinence.
I take it you are 43 and your mother is the one with dementia living in a nursing home? How is your stepfather able to physically abuse her in a nursing home setting????
You may want to expand on your post. Filling out a profile incorrectly and asking a question within a title doesn't give us much to go on.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Who is telling SD is abusing Mom. If its Mom, you really can't believe her. Has the facility complained about SD? If so, I would think they have the authority to ban him from the home. If he physically abuses her, they should call the police and ban him. They should be protecting her.
Your profile indicates you mother is in a care facility.
Have you discussed your observations with the care facility?
Have you and your step father not got along during the time he has been in relationship with your Mom? That is to say is this a troubled relationship between the two of you in general?
Has your mother and stepfather's relationship changed over time, or has it always had a tendency to bickering?
Your options are, if you observe abuse, to keep a diary and to report each incident to the administration of the facility where your parent is located. You should also reach out to APS and let them know in a concrete manner just EXACTLY what you are seeing. That is to say you will need to describe each incident completely, not to just "label" it as abuse.
I hope you will give us some concrete examples of what you are seeing.
I am so sorry for this. You must be very worried. But do know that your real help is close to home. We on the Forum are unable to intervene in what you are experiencing. I wish you good luck, hope you will elaborate for us what you're experiencing, and hope you will report to the authorities.
If your step father is physically and or verbally abusing your mother in the facility and the staff is witness to this they are MANDATED reporters of abuse and they by law HAVE to report the abuse.
If you have POA YOU can restrict visitation. If you do not have POA I suggest that you file for Guardianship so that you can protect your mother from her abuser.
I am caring for my mother Sara , who is 43 years old, living in a nursing home with age-related decline, alzheimer's / dementia, and incontinence.
I take it you are 43 and your mother is the one with dementia living in a nursing home? How is your stepfather able to physically abuse her in a nursing home setting????
You may want to expand on your post. Filling out a profile incorrectly and asking a question within a title doesn't give us much to go on.