It started out me trying to be a good person (I thought that other people she claimed to had helped had destroyed the house & she was just overwhelmed & could ot do it alone! I found out much later they have always lived in filth!)& then she told me she would get help paying me if I would stay on, I thought GREAT! This would help both of us out. That's not what has gone on at all. I've helped , worked my rear end off ! Cleaned up her & sons filth not to mention she lets her 3 dogs"potty" in the house & they don't clean up anything.She has lied to me about applying for help to pay me. I am in the worst situation I have ever been in. They have $ to "BLOW" , while I don't even have $ for essentials! I can't even get outta the situation because I have nobody (no living family or friends who can afford it!)to help me & I have no $. If I could get some suggestions of who I can contact for help, I would deeply appreciate.
Stop thinking “I have nobody to help me” and look at your own strengths. What work can you do? Can you live at a shelter while you work and save some money? Can you sign on with a care company, even if you do ‘live-in’ work for a while? The best ‘help’ might be someone to work with you on a plan that you do yourself. Good luck, and best wishes!
I'm sorry that you allowed yourself to be used for this long. Time to move out even if you have to go to a homeless shelter. At least you won't be living in filth.
Problematic is that I am guessing you are living there free? And have no funds of your own nor options for living elsewhere?
I would say you need now to be couch surfing until you can find a paying job. Apply at care centers, nursing homes and start at the bottom with housekeeping or kitchen help if need be, and work your way up. Once you have saved for a few months room in someone's home (you may find co workers have a room for rent) you can leave off begging for shelter in shelters or on friend's couches, and get a room, work your way up to efficiency apartment and so on.
If you are leaving an elder in need of care you will inform the family of your date of moving out.
If family doesn't step up you will call APS in your area to report an elder in need. You can also report to police or local sheriff if there is no APS in your immediate area.
Best of luck.
Where are you currently living? Were you employed prior to helping out this woman? So many unanswered questions.
If you have no where to live, may I suggest you check with the County to see where is the closest woman's shelter. From there the shelter can help guide you. Hope everything works out for the best.
I would Not have lasted this long. I may have done one big clean up but I would not have continued to do this type of cleaning for adults. Its time for you to say "no more" and leave. Then call APS to have them investigate. The animals being allowed to go in the house is a health problem.
I had many clients over the years where I did nothing for them other than clean their homes and Medicare paid for it.
If the client only needs cleaning done then that's what the caregiver does.
In future, be sure to get everything related to a rental agreement or job in writing: this is for your own protection.
Please continue to check in here, and let us know how things are progressing.
I wish you the very best.
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