My husband, a very intelligent man of 68, thinks he has ADHD, not dementia. That's ok with me. He makes up explanations for things he doesn't remember. He never did like to take my word for things. We have a young adult daughter and cats, so we are mostly happy together except for occasional snappy fights. He is starting to have trouble remembering the next step of a job. Sometimes I hover around trying to coach without nagging, but how? I have experience dealing with much older, frailer people, and can see that they can't take care of themselves. But part of me still wants him to do his share (or at least a little) of the housework. Sometimes I'm more like a bratty sister than a loving wife.
my husband is 72 and his neuroligist told him he cant drive anymore because of the dementia...he put to him in the terms of money and jail.....
If he drives..has accident...kills someone...it is vehicular homicide (thus.jailtime)
if he badly injures someone...he could be sued for everything he has.
Seems that got thrum to him...he hates that I (the person he always thought incompent in many ways) is now in control of not only the driving but most other facits of his life too (he has always claimed control)
Actually a year ago he was driving...then because of the medicines he was feeling so much better..that he decided he didn't need the seizure Meds and stopped them...thus he had another seizure...which claimed more of his brain function...so he again was the cause of even more devistation for everyone.......
I Said there is a fine line between tough and stupid and he has now crossed to the stupid side because of his own doing
can so relate...my husband has been diagnosed with vascular dementia....we moved in with our daughter...during the moving...he packed stuff oddly.with no rational of why or where..got angry when anyone questioned it. Daughter and I have to watch his actions always ....he does things we have speifcally asked him to not do...then gets mad when we ask why and attempt correct him...he then claims he is being "elder abused"
God help all the caregivers.....
I agree it seems like dealing with a child....however one can usually reason with a child...so this is much more challenging because some part of their psych has them believing they are still the capable person of " BD" before dementia.
He thinks he can do the sames things he used to/he tries but gets frustrated when it doesent go right....gets annoyed if I attempt to coach him (as he has always thought and acted like he knew better than me. This dementia is an ugly disease for everyone near to Cope with. Rational seems out the door at times....
If you see your husband is getting frustrated with a job, maybe a hint is in order. He might resent the hint, but it seems better than frustration. When it comes to housework, maybe he can do the things that don't have many steps.