So..the time has come. We are in for a fight and we know it. FIL is currently in a rehab facility after a fall. It is still up in the air if he will actually return home. But that being said, his reminder that his license needs to be renewed came in the mail today. SIL sent me a picture of it via text when she got it out of the mailbox. Of course renewing it is out of the question. He is legally blind, he can't physically get himself into the car without us putting him there, his reflexes and response times even on his scooter are a hazard to everyone one around him. He hasn't driven in over two years. He KNOWS he can't renew it. His doctor has already told him that he can't. We know he will fight us on it. But we are prepared for that.
I had to go to the DMV the other day for myself and was advised that in order to get him a State ID in our state he actually HAS to come in the first time since he is changing classifications (after that he can renew it online ). There is no way around it. He has a current Military ID with picture. And we are starting to wonder if it is actually worth the trouble of taking him to the DMV to get the State ID at all and dealing with the fall out (it will take hours even with an appt, he has a urinary incontinence issue even with Depends, his scooter is the size of a lawnmower because he himself is a very large man, he has a tendency to run into things and knock into people because he thinks THEY are in HIS way, it will overall be a VERY bad experience and we are wondering if there is value to it.
Would the Military ID, being government issued, with his picture, be sufficient for anything that he would need ID for at this point in his life since he won't be driving? Does he really need the State ID as well? Is there something we aren't thinking about that he would specifically need the State ID for that the Military ID wouldn't be sufficient for?
We obviously aren't even going to address this until/if he comes home from the rehab. It's completely moot if he doesn't make enough progress to come home and has to be transferred to a Skilled Nursing Facility. We still have several months before we have to worry about it. But we are trying to plan ahead.
I've been checking out assisted livinng online for almost 2 months. I bought 2 LTC policies back in 93 and 95....kind of forgot about them... I knew they didn't cover assisted living.. it wasn't around much then then....and I surely can't afford 3-4K a month
on my own.I've been searching all sorts of websites for fed and st gov regulations, to see how they've changed and there are lots of organization about LongTermCare with a lot of information.. I've talked to 2 companies that process claims for LTC.. so we don't have to go CRAZY.... sitting on hold for HOURS getting no where. I've talked to 2 att. both work with seniors/and/or low income... and they were'nt very optomistic of getting any help...Good thing I have't spent the money I made selling my house, but my kids sure could have used it. Anyway, I'm really looking forward to going into the ALF I finally chose... now I just have to wait for the apt I really want to open up. They only have 5 or 6 total in the unit... I met with the Sales Consultant the other day, and asked about the 2ADLs that my ins requires for AL, but I can't get in with 2ADLs in fact most of the other co. this is a disqualification. But, once you are in... you can be pretty assured you can stay as long as you need, they won't kick you out.. Go check out a few ALF find the ones you think he might like, maybe he needs nursing homes... they,ll let you know if he needs more car then they can take care of. They're pretty good at that. I hope you find him a nice home... sounds like I'm talking about a puppy. Lynn
I had Moms done and I do not remember her needing it. She was not charging anything nor was she writing a check.
I wouldn't worry about it, and I would certainly NOT be dragging FIL into the DMV on his lawnmower sized scooter for a piece of ID he'll never even need. Money talks, not ID. As long as he can pay his way with a credit card or cash, nobody will care if he has ID!
No one other than his doctors offices asked for his ID, and his expired license was used until his death in 2020, so if it were me I wouldn't worry about having to get your FIL to the DMV, as his expired license should be just fine.
I would ask the doctors office if they accept it as a valid form of ID, ask the rehab and hospital, ask his bank, basically anything that he does, ask them if they will accept it. Some may require a second ID, which I found a credit card always works for this.
Let us know what works out for you. Otherwise, be sure and guide him towards the staff at the DMV. ;-/