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Be clear.

Say no when you mean no.

Say I can help with A.
But I can't help with X, Y, Z.

On repeat. Change what you can/can't do as your health dictates.

"But they are bitchy to me.."

So what? Really: SO WHAT!

You can't control them, their time, their words, attitudes, thoughts or feelings.

Don't let them control yours.
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Let them bi**h. Your mother is their responsibility as well as yours. You are not obligated to do everything. They should not have such high expectations of you knowing your medical conditions.

Let them bi**h and flick their passive aggressiveness. Should you wear yourself out they will step in. Therefore, they should step in now prior to wearing you down.
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Truman46 Sep 2022
sister #2 said she was at the house cleaning for 2.5 hours. I wanted to reply that I will have spent 3 hours in the car driving to and from my parents. I was tired by the time I got there.
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The question should be how much caregiving you are able to provide . You have multiple physical health complications which possibly affects your mental health. Rather than being concern with what are your caregiver responsibilities you should be concern with taking care of yourself and setting boundaries with your sister.
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Sorry, I just figured out I can reply to u.
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It is ok for you to simply say NO!
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Truman46 Sep 2022
But they are bitchy to me and passive aggressive. Mom was taken to ER, my sister never told me. Another sister let me know 6 hours later. My mom is going on hospice, either I drive 1.5 hours each way to care for her or stay in a hotel nearby. None of my sisters offered my a room and I feel guilty staying at my parents home. There isn’t a bed and I feel like a guest at parents.
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