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First of all, I'm thankful for this forum. I have learned so much and learned to say NO. Most of you know my story. But my dad is still trying to find ways to leave his facility. He was in the hospital recently just for tests that all turned out fine thank God. I was visiting him one day while he was there and the nurse came in to change him. She asked if he minded if I stayed in the room and he said. "No, she is going to have learn how to do it anyway." I do not know what he has up his sleeve but I'm tired. He says he wants to sell his house and has someone interested in buying (I have talked to the person) but yet he gives people my phone number to call me about renting. I know his mind is not as stable as it once was but he is very clever. I'm tired.

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Your dad is being diapered as he is saying these things, Faithful. This is wishful thinking on his part. Don't rob him of hope. Just let him chatter on. Don't argue; he is beyond being able to do that and so are you. His mind isn't stable. He is having "magical thinking". Do look that up; it's where he's at now. It's good to hear from you. Wishing him the best.
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faithfulbeauty Oct 18, 2025
I have learned not to argue with him. I don't have the energy and I know his mind isn't stable. Thank you!
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Ignore the phone calls or change your phone number and don’t give Dad the new phone number . Tell admin your new phone number and that they are not to give it to Dad.
You need to limit your in person exposures to Dad as well as phone calls from him and ignore calls from others that he directs to you .
I would let my mother’s phone calls go to voicemail . I didn’t always call back . She would leave messages .

Continue to get up and leave and go home when he pulls manipulative cr4p . And don’t return for two weeks at least .
The facility will call you if there is a problem . I went 6 weeks without seeing Mom after she called the police to tell them I was stealing her money and her home. I also would drop things off without seeing her . The staff would place what I brought in her room . When Mom got wise to that she sat by the front door to ambush me . So the facility told me I could call the front desk and they would send a staff member out to the parking lot to get Mom’s Depends , snacks etc that I was dropping off. This way I didn’t have to go in the building .

Can you just sell his house as POA ?
Once my mother’s house was sold , her shenanigans of trying to go home stopped.
Don’t tell Dad you are selling the house. Tell him after the transaction is done, that it’s been sold . And yes he will be angry for a while .
Selling my mother’s house quelled my mother’s thinking that she was in charge of my life. She stopped trying to make me take her back to her house and live with her . She knew enough that she could not live in my home with stairs. She also didn’t really want to live at my house or with my husband . She just wanted to go back to her own house and for me to move in .
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faithfulbeauty Oct 18, 2025
Yes, I'm going to just sell it. It is the best thing to do. We tried renting before and people would not pay. It was too much stress on me.
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I hope you left when your dad said why you needed to stay.
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faithfulbeauty Oct 17, 2025
I did.
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I was getting counseling but I'm not able afford it right now. But I plan to start back soon. Yes, this has been a long battle. I do have POA.
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Faithful, you have been through a lot, for YEARS. You don't need to be visiting your father in the hospital, or in his facility. Don't take any calls from people he directs to you. Just let them go to voicemail, or tell them you have no involvement with your father's issues. Just quietly ease yourself out of his life. I don't remember if you have his POA, but if you do, resign it and just be done with him. I hope you are getting counseling to relearn how to enjoy and live your own life.
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