First of all, I'm thankful for this forum. I have learned so much and learned to say NO. Most of you know my story. But my dad is still trying to find ways to leave his facility. He was in the hospital recently just for tests that all turned out fine thank God. I was visiting him one day while he was there and the nurse came in to change him. She asked if he minded if I stayed in the room and he said. "No, she is going to have learn how to do it anyway." I do not know what he has up his sleeve but I'm tired. He says he wants to sell his house and has someone interested in buying (I have talked to the person) but yet he gives people my phone number to call me about renting. I know his mind is not as stable as it once was but he is very clever. I'm tired.
You need to limit your in person exposures to Dad as well as phone calls from him and ignore calls from others that he directs to you .
I would let my mother’s phone calls go to voicemail . I didn’t always call back . She would leave messages .
Continue to get up and leave and go home when he pulls manipulative cr4p . And don’t return for two weeks at least .
The facility will call you if there is a problem . I went 6 weeks without seeing Mom after she called the police to tell them I was stealing her money and her home. I also would drop things off without seeing her . The staff would place what I brought in her room . When Mom got wise to that she sat by the front door to ambush me . So the facility told me I could call the front desk and they would send a staff member out to the parking lot to get Mom’s Depends , snacks etc that I was dropping off. This way I didn’t have to go in the building .
Can you just sell his house as POA ?
Once my mother’s house was sold , her shenanigans of trying to go home stopped.
Don’t tell Dad you are selling the house. Tell him after the transaction is done, that it’s been sold . And yes he will be angry for a while .
Selling my mother’s house quelled my mother’s thinking that she was in charge of my life. She stopped trying to make me take her back to her house and live with her . She knew enough that she could not live in my home with stairs. She also didn’t really want to live at my house or with my husband . She just wanted to go back to her own house and for me to move in .