Father in Law has been hospitalized three times now in the past couple months and each time he is stabilized and behaves very well and gets released. However every assisted living/memory care he has been placed in, despite medication for his agitation, he gets violent and trashes his room, threatens staff and other patients and gets kicked out on his first day there. Every time. I don't think we have any options left. We already had to move him to a different state as our home state had no more places that would accept him. We cannot have him in our home as it would not be safe for ourselves and especially our children.
Feeling lost and unsure what to do or what comes next.
Sounds like FIL needs a geriatric psychiatrist who can place him on meds to calm him down. This process will take awhile before right balance of meds/right med are found. The sooner you start, the sooner a resolution will be found.
* Ensure you get reports of the drugs he's on and do your independent research of possible reactions to these drugs, and esp or in addition to when some drugs are combined.
My heart goes out to you.
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2. If you have already done the above, revisit this " unsafe" behavior with the specialists for further assessment.
3. I am not clear from your inquiry if your FIL is cognitively appropriate ( that is ,is he able to mentally communicate verbally and comprehend) ??
?? Attention seeking behaviors vs ??? other dementia or other mentally limiting condition (s).
4. Have medical staff assessment team assess his " care level needs" and include this " unsafe" behavior history for them .
5. Be clear with the medical team that you cannot care for him at home.
6. Does he have potential unresolved anger, rejection, attention , ODD ( oppositional defiant disorder) etc etc ???
Practice good self care. You will need strong, firm boundaries....
So many possible reasons....
Best of luck to you.
I do not think that his outbursts were a result of any misbehavior on the part of the facilities he was in. I truly think it would have happened in any of them, no matter the circumstances.
At the current hospital he is in, he did end up having incidents where get got violent or needed restraining. His ability to understand or reason seems to have dissolved as well (it was somewhat present in the past few months, even if not fully logical). It (the cognitive loss) seems to have been happening incredibly rapidly. I am unsure if that is just the progession of the disease or if it's a result of the medications he has been on.
As previously stated I do think he had undiagnosed mental health issues and certainly anger management issues. ODD would not have surprised me in the least.
There were no UTIs or infections present at the time of the incidents. He is physically very healthy. Or was. Since being in the most recent hospital he has come down with Covid last week and now has double pneumonia. So currently he is too weak and/or sedated to have any meltdowns.