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You will need a different ( perhapsgeriatric) dr to prescribe the correct medication. I went through this for 10 years with my mother. They need a balance of anti anxiety medications and more. So they are calmer without being drugged into unconsciousness…music and photos may help too…. Don’t give up … he can be calm … with a dementia brain injury medication is key. This stage also will pass. There may be a problem also with not consistently administering the meds. I am not a Dr … but this should NOT be happening!!
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Speak with an elder care case manager, social worker, Natl Council on Aging, or Alz.org or Alz 800 number and they may be able to put you in contact with someone who can assist. Google it.

Sounds like FIL needs a geriatric psychiatrist who can place him on meds to calm him down. This process will take awhile before right balance of meds/right med are found. The sooner you start, the sooner a resolution will be found.
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It is VERY likely due to the medication they have him on! Try getting him off the drugs and have them all evaluated. There are natural alternatives to help calm people that do not have the severe side effects.
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YES. Ask for written report of drugs he is on and when they change the drugs. It is often a hit or miss trying to find out what works. Unfortunately, the recipient of the drugs suffer during this process. It is heartbreaking.
* Ensure you get reports of the drugs he's on and do your independent research of possible reactions to these drugs, and esp or in addition to when some drugs are combined.

My heart goes out to you.

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1. Address this behavior with his PCP ( Primary Care Physician) and, have him perhaps referred to a Geriatric specialist and/ or Psychiatrist/ Psychologist for assessment and, recommendation.

2. If you have already done the above, revisit this " unsafe" behavior with the specialists for further assessment.

3. I am not clear from your inquiry if your FIL is cognitively appropriate ( that is ,is he able to mentally communicate verbally and comprehend) ??
?? Attention seeking behaviors vs ??? other dementia or other mentally limiting condition (s).

4. Have medical staff assessment team assess his " care level needs" and include this " unsafe" behavior history for them .

5. Be clear with the medical team that you cannot care for him at home.

6. Does he have potential unresolved anger, rejection, attention , ODD ( oppositional defiant disorder) etc etc ???

Practice good self care. You will need strong, firm boundaries....
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It may be possible that your FIL is doing well in the hospital because he likes the attention he receives while there. Nurses in and out of the room many times of the day, doctor visit each day, meals brought to him on a tray, someone coming to retrieve the tray after meals, housekeeping coming in to clean each day, etc. Then when he returns to a residential facility those frequent human interactions decrease dramatically.
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Please video his behavior and bring it with you to the Geriatric Psychiatrist who can offer medication and refer your father to a mental health hospital. Google the doctor nearest to you.
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Consult with Hospice. My Step Father went through this at home. They can also work with and in the nursing homes facilities. They will keep him heavily sedated to calm him. We also had to call the police/rescue squad at times. It was very hard to go through. Hang in there. Sending prayers.
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i went through this with my father. May I ask what state you live in?
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DCorrelle: His physician should provide a medication reassessment.
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If it has already been mentioned, please forgive me...didn't have time to reveiw all answers, Sometimes behavior changes can be physically related could he be in pain, but not know how to express it. Could he have an asymtomatic UTI, (ie, not the usual symptoms of burning/ pain with urination etc)
So many possible reasons....
Best of luck to you.
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Thanks for all of the new answers/suggestions/support.

I do not think that his outbursts were a result of any misbehavior on the part of the facilities he was in. I truly think it would have happened in any of them, no matter the circumstances.

At the current hospital he is in, he did end up having incidents where get got violent or needed restraining. His ability to understand or reason seems to have dissolved as well (it was somewhat present in the past few months, even if not fully logical). It (the cognitive loss) seems to have been happening incredibly rapidly. I am unsure if that is just the progession of the disease or if it's a result of the medications he has been on.

As previously stated I do think he had undiagnosed mental health issues and certainly anger management issues. ODD would not have surprised me in the least.

There were no UTIs or infections present at the time of the incidents. He is physically very healthy. Or was. Since being in the most recent hospital he has come down with Covid last week and now has double pneumonia. So currently he is too weak and/or sedated to have any meltdowns.
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I went through this with my mother, who was on Prozac and Clonazipan after my sister died and her MCI progressed rapidly. The Clonazipan was increased to a point where she did become violent -knocking down a Christmas tree, throwing coffee mugs at people and things. breaking things. We finally sent her to a psychiatric hospital (though is scared me to do so) and it turned out to be the best thing we could have done. They took her off the Prozac and Clonapin gradually, and put her on a new set of drugs for her anxiety that did not make her angry. She sometimes gets mad now, but does not get violent or try to hurt things/people. I say this to suggest, could he be placed in a Psychiatric hospital to adjust his medications so that he is calmer?
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