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Husband has Alzheimer's and is declining. Now holding his urine is becoming a problem. He went in the waste paper basket one morning. Some suggestions please. We just went to the doctor there was no infection with the bladder. Thank you.

These are heartbreaking times and grief filled. No one wants to experience a spouse doing these things due to losing brain cells.

He needs to be in a facility who can handle his needs 24/7.
This behavior will progress and you are not equipped to handle it as professionals are in a nursing home or facility / locked memory care unit where he will have 24/7 supervision and care.

You should 'only' visit and enjoy what time together you can.

Yes, he is declining and this will continue.
I question if there are reasons why he is still living at home with you - which I presume is the situation.

He needs to be in a nursing home or a facility so he can get the care he needs.

Gena / Touch Matters
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Once he’s at that point, there’s no going back. He’ll do it again somewhere else, many times. Possibilities are in the nightstand drawer, in his shoe, in your shoe, on the table top, in the dishwasher, in the bathtub, on a box on a low shelf, on the baseboards, all over the carpet. The above are true examples observed by me.

Male urine has an odor unlike any other. It’s nigh impossible to get rid of it, though white vinegar or commercial products can help. The decision is yours - can you live with this as long as he lives? With cleaning it up four or more times a day? I’m so sorry, but most people need to be placed when this symptom surfaces. Professionals have ways of dealing with it in a matter-of-fact and kind manner.

I wish you luck in finding the right place for him.
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You permanently remove all his cloth briefs and only provide disposable ones. Then consider adaptive clothing for people with ALZ, called "anti-strip" jumpsuits so he can no longer access his briefs to urinate elsewhere but in the disposable.
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Cheeky, I’m sorry; it’s kind of a landmark moment, isn’t it? So much depends on whether your husband has lost total control, day and night or if you’re dealing only with periods of incontinence.

You will probably have to experiment with products and absorb ability but I agree with Geaton regarding removing all cloth briefs and replacing with disposables. It was hard for my husband to give them up but I was doing so much laundry it was ridiculous.

Bed making may have to change as well. I have started to make up my husband’s bed this way: mattress, waterproof sheet, fitted sheet, second waterproof sheet, second fitted sheet, flat, top sheet, water resistant blanket. That way, if I need to rescue him in the middle of the night I can whip off the uppermost fitted sheet and waterproof sheet and he can go right back to bed. A bedside commode may be a future possibility.
I’m sorry, this part is really hard. I hope this helps a little.
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