Mom is medically "healthy" but 95 and weak, she sleeps a lot and is never hungry except when tea and cookies are involved. Mom has a catheter and always needs her walker. I physically hand bathe her as she can no longer use the stairs. How do I know whether or not she will need to go on hospice?
I hope she has a peaceful ending. Sounds like she has started to transition already. Not eating and lots of sleeping are the ways we start ending life as we knew it. Don't try to get her to eat…it may well make her feel worse. Take good care of yourself, too…Hospice is for you as well.
Love that! It goes right along with all the "lifetime guaranties" we get. :)
Ask that mom be evaluated.
there are GREAT advantages of Hospice and many people get on Hospice at End of Life and they and family do not get to take full advantage of the support that it can offer.
If the thought of "6 months or fewer" cause you concern do not worry about that. As long as there is a "documented, continued decline" a person can remain on Hospice. My Husband was on Hospice for almost 3 years.
Call her doctor and discuss Hospice and palliative care.
Sample is partially right, in that insurance companies determine our care, but not from a '6 months before death' perspective. But from a 'terminal illness' perspective when hospice care is desired. And insurance determines ALL of our care in general, let's face it! If they don't determine we're eligible FOR care in the first place, we don't get it. That's life in the 21st century, and was life in the 20th century too, whether we agree with it or not. Unless we have the money to self-pay the astronomical costs of medical care and can afford to bypass health insurance companies entirely, we are slaves TO them.
Wishing you the best of luck advocating for your mom to get her the hospice care it sounds like she would benefit from.
Most people ultimately say that they " wish they had started hospice care sooner that they did". Prayers and peace.
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